Your communication skills are what make your relationship move forward in a healthy manner and last a long time.
Even when you have the same values, want the same things out of life and are a great match in bed, if you can’t communicate honestly and openly when expressing your feelings, your relationship is doomed to fail.
If you can’t see eye to eye with your partner anymore and it has become difficult and challenging to have a conversation that doesn’t end with one of you slamming the door, these 6 tips can help you overcome your communicative difficulties and improve the dynamic of your relationship.
Give them a go!
1. Even when you don’t agree with him, respect his opinions and ideas
There is no room for screaming and shouting in a healthy relationship. You won’t always agree on everything but show him that you respect his views, even if yours are quite different.
If you can’t agree with him, tell him kindly how you feel. If you don’t, your arguments will soon start spiraling out of control and then it will be too late to salvage it.
2. Turn off your phone for an hour each night
If your fingers are glued to your phone even when you’re in the middle of a conversation with him, that’s a sign of blatant disrespect.
Your partner deserves at least an hour of your undivided attention every night. Forget about your phone and connect with your man.
Don’t miss out on those little moments of just enjoying each other’s warm embrace on a cold, rainy night, due to your smartphone obsession.
You will learn to regret it, trust me.
3. Think twice before saying something hurtful you can’t take back
It’s really easy to overreact when you hear something from your partner that you disagree with. But in order to not hurt his feelings by saying something unkind in the heat of the moment, take a deep breath and count to five.
Think about what you were going to say and deliver it with a calm voice and a hopeful attitude. Don’t take it too personally. His intention is never to hurt you, so don’t try and do the same.
Count to five and if you still want to say it, do it in the kindest way you know how and make him understand why you feel that way.
4. Leave the past where it belongs
Digging up past issues that you have already resolved is a dick move! Focus on the present and leave those past issues where they belong.
There is seriously no point going over stuff that you buried a long time ago, just to score points and make yourself look better.
Those issues are in the past for a reason, so don’t create distractions from your current problems that need working out. Focusing on present issues is the only way to actually solve them.
If you keep being focused on past issues that don’t pertain to your current situation, you’re avoiding having this discussion for some reason and you need to ask yourself why and then work on it with your partner.
5. Observe his body language
Sometimes he may say one thing but his body will give away how he really feels. Learn to read it.
If his body language is giving you different vibes from what he is saying, ask him politely if he’s truly okay. Don’t make him feel attacked but also don’t ignore the vibe he’s giving out.
Sometimes, he won’t say how he really feels in order to avoid further confrontation, so make sure your eyes are open and that his body language is in sync with his words.
6. Remember that the goal is to find a mutual solution, not score points
The most important part of any relationship is compromise. And sometimes, you have to be okay with things that are not completely to your liking, for the sake of your relationship.
It’s better to be happy than to always be right. Remember that. It’s not just you in this relationship. It takes two to tango. So, sometimes, try to find a solution that is closest to what you feel comfortable with and stop keeping tab on who’s right every time.
Your relationship will be more successful once you realize that your main goal should be finding a solution to your problems, instead of having it your way every single time.
