Open your eyes and see the truth. Stop giving all of yourself to those who are not giving one piece of themselves to you. I know it is the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do but it will also be the best thing you’ll ever do for yourself by far.
So, stop trying to change those who are not willing to change. Stop waiting for those who are not willing to come. Stop prioritizing those to whom you’re just an option. Stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready for it.
And stop being so cruel to yourself. You don’t need to be loved by everyone. You don’t need to go out of your way to show them how much you love them. If they don’t reciprocate it means they are not ready to receive and they don’t deserve such treatment. And you certainly don’t deserve their toxic love.
When you start focusing on yourself instead of on everyone else around you, you will see how mistaken you’ve been all this time. When you fully commit to your interests and desires, not everyone will be ready to follow you and that doesn’t mean you need to change. It means you need to stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to receive it.
It means to stop showering them with your affection because they are not capable of receiving it. It means to stop changing yourself just to meet their expectations. It means to stop losing yourself to those who aren’t ready to do the same for you.
If you’re constantly the only one making an effort without getting anything in return, you’re deliberately depriving yourself of happiness and the life you should be living. There’s a difference between surviving and living. There’s a difference between survival love and the real one.
Survival love means doing anything to get enough to stay satiated but the real one means mutually contributing—giving and receiving the same amount you’ve given. So, don’t satisfy yourself with survival love because you were born for so much more and much greater than what you might think.
The longer you believe that you don’t deserve better, the longer you’ll be trapped in your own mind and body. The longer you believe that you don’t deserve happiness, the longer you’ll be deprived of it.
Stop believing it and stop giving yourself selflessly hoping that they will change their mind. Stop loving them just so you can expect them to love you back. Stop expecting. Don’t be afraid to do what is right. Don’t be afraid to say no. And when you do, what’s the worst that could happen?
When you stop being there for them, they might not like you anymore.
When you stop prioritizing them, they might say that you’re selfish.
When you stop calling and texting them, your phone might stay dark for days.
When you stop loving them, your relationship might be ruined.
And if that happens, why would you care? They had plenty of time to work on their behavior and start appreciating what they had. And now is the time for you to start working on yourself and stop giving a shit about those who are obviously not on your commitment level.
You were the only one investing in your relationship in the first place and you are not obliged to feel sorry if it breaks up when you stop doing so. Because if it does, it means it was not love at all. It was just your goodwill to share your patience with and care for those who were not ready to do the same.
And now is the time to stop doing that. It’s time to make your life a safe place in which only people who are grateful, reciprocal and caring are allowed to enter. It’s time to get rid of all of the negativity and indulge in the positive because you are not the one who is responsible for helping them and changing their life for the better.
The only thing you should think about is saving yourself because if you don’t, no one else will do it for you. So, stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready for it. Love yourself and share your love only with those who are worthy of it.