Always be wary of the silent killers in your relationship. You are probably aware of the many common reasons that people in relationships break up. You know about how many couples are rarely ever able to survive cheating and infidelity. You know that many marriages end as a result of financial mismanagement. You know about many relationships drawing to a close as a result of physical abuse or violence.
And that’s good. You’re making yourself aware of all the big things that you should definitely avoid in a relationship.
But what about the little things? What about the silent killers?
What most people don’t understand about the big things that go wrong in a relationship don’t just come about instantaneously. Sometimes, these big problems come about as a result of consistently bad patterns and habits that are repeated continuously over the course of a relationship. For example, a simple bad habit that you have in your relationship could be what drives your partner to become more distant towards you. And as a result, they end up cheating on you.
That’s why you always want to make sure that you make yourself aware of these bad patterns as much as possible. You always want to be able to spot them out and make sure that you put a stop to them once you see that they’re there. Ensuring the longevity in a relationship is always going to warrant substantial attention to detail after all.
So, if you find that you are committing a lot of these bad habits in your relationship, then you might want to make a change so that you don’t end up killing the love that you have for one another.
1. You keep your bad feelings to yourself.
Let those feelings out. Communicate with your partner about your bad feelings even if it means having uncomfortable discussions with them. It’s a lot better to have the occasional fight and disagreement to bring the two of you closer together than to just keep your negative feelings bottled up inside.
2. You try to change your partner into someone else.
You should never try to change your partner into someone they’re not comfortable with being. Yes, you want them to be the best version of themselves. But you don’t want them to feel like they’re not enough for you.
3. You try to outdo one another.
In a relationship, it should never be a competition. It’s always bad if you feel insecure whenever your partner amasses some success in life. Your partner’s success should also be your own success as well. If you can’t be happy in your partner’s happiness over something, then there’s something inherently wrong with your relationship.
4. You don’t make an effort to listen to your partner.
You must always make a genuine effort to listen to your partner. You never want them to feel like the stuff that they tell you goes in one ear and out through the next. You never want to be walled off from your partner. You always want to make yourself accessible and easy to talk to.
5. You let your jealousy get the best of you.
Jealousy and possessiveness is okay to a certain degree in the relationship. You just want to be territorial and protective of the love that you have. However, it also gets to a point wherein your jealousy might actually get the best of you and be toxic for the relationship. You never want that to happen.
6. You compare your partner to other people.
You should never get into the game of comparing your partner to other people. That’s wrong and uncalled for. You should be seeing your partner for who they are regardless of how they might compare to the people around you.
7. You lie to your partner.
You should never engage in blatant acts of dishonesty with your partner. You might think that a few white lies here and there are okay if it’s totally for the greater good. But if you’re just lying to get yourself out of trouble, then you know that you’re in the wrong here.
8. You hold on to grudges.
Your partner isn’t always going to do the right thing in the relationship. And if they show genuine remorse for wrongdoing, you need to find it in your heart to forgive them. You can’t be holding their mistakes over their head. You can’t be holding on to ill feelings or grudges.
9. You withhold love and affection.
How is your partner ever going to know that you are still in love with them if you don’t actually make an effort to let that love be known to them? You must never be withholding of the love and affection that you have for your partner in your relationship. Wear your heart on your sleeve.