There’s nothing worse than staying in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy. But, the majority of us have done it and will keep doing it because this is not something you are doing consciously.
You cannot decide that you’re going to stay with that person just because you’re scared of being alone. But, your actions can show it, and that is what you should be paying attention to.
When love fades away and your passion is gone for good, it’s hard to save your relationship from a possible breakup.
Sometimes it’s doable, but when you see that there is no hope and you still keep trying, you need to ask yourself why you are doing this in the first place.
Is it because of the fear of being single or because you don’t want to believe that your relationship is falling apart?
Here are 6 signs that will help you decipher whether you’re staying in a relationship just because you’re scared of being single.
1. Your partner doesn’t make you happy anymore
This is the most important one. If you feel like your partner simply cannot make you happy anymore, the chances are that you’re still with them just because you don’t want to be single.
Especially if your partner is trying hard to satisfy your every need, but you simply don’t enjoy it anymore, it means it’s time to move on. When you need to force something in order to be functional, it means it needs repairing or discarding.
And if you’ve already tried everything and you’re aware that your partner bores you and you’re not interested in them anymore, you should consider leaving them for good because your happiness should be your number one priority.
2. You complain about your partner to others
If you find yourself constantly complaining about your partner to others, it means you’re not happy with them, and there’s no point in staying with them only to gossip about them. If their habits all of a sudden irritate you, it means you’re no longer comfortable in their company, and you no longer like them for who they are.
When you really like someone and want to be with them, you find their habits and quirks amusing and not irritating, and that is the biggest difference between being in love and being scared of leaving them.
3. You’re constantly daydreaming
Daydreaming about a better future or about another partner is an alarming sign that you’re staying with your current partner only out of fear of being single. When we’re daydreaming, we’re contemplatingall of the things that we would want to improve or discard in order to be truly happy.
We’re daydreaming because we are unhappy with our reality / our partner, and we do it as an escape from what we are unable to do—and that is breaking up with them and moving on for good. In this case, you need to realize that you’re only postponing the inevitable.
4. You cannot imagine being single
What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you think about breaking up with your partner? Is it the feeling of being lonely or is the feeling of freedom?
If the first thing that pops into your mind is feeling alone, chances are you’re staying in the relationship because you don’t want to feel alone. Another indicator is if you’re appalled by the thought of dating again.
5. You’re trying hard to change your partner
It’s totally normal not to be 100% satisfied with your partner, but it’s totally different if you’re constantly trying hard to change them.
If you’re doing this, it means you don’t want them. You want another version of them that has nothing to do with who they really are.
You want another person that suits your needs and who can make you happy because you obviously are not happy with your current partner. Instead of changing your partner, you should consider changing your views on the situation you’re in.
6. You’re not enjoying your own company
Do you feel extreme loneliness when you’re by yourself? Do you find it hard to enjoy your own company? If yes, this could mean that you’re still with your partner just because you don’t have the guts to go your separate ways.
If you’re not enjoying your own company, it means you’re scared of or you don’t know how to be alone with yourself, and that is why you choose to stay in a decayed relationship instead of breaking free from it.
Don’t be afraid to spend time on your own. Enjoy yourself. Love yourself because before loving someone else, you should be able to accept yourself for who you are and appreciate the time spent alone.