I know it feels draining to have arguments with your partner but wait for a moment and try to look at it from a different perspective. You see, every single relationship has its good and bad sides and it’s completely normal to fight or to have an argument with your partner.
It’s normal because, believe it or not, arguing with your partner bonds you. But not all types of arguments have this ‘bonding power’.
There are some arguments that can literally destroy your relationship with your partner, whereas there are also arguments that can prove you’re with the right person.
I know it sounds contradictory and I know that you are wondering what kind of bloody argument can prove anything to you except to show whether you or your partner is right or wrong. But if you look at it from a different perspective, you’ll realize that all this time, you’ve been missing the bigger picture.
1. Arguments about finances
If you’re constantly having arguments about finances with your partner, don’t be alarmed. Talking about money issues is actually healthy for every couple. By discussing such a sensitive topic, you become more compromising and understanding.
I know it’s hard to understand that arguing about finances will ever bring you anything good but think of it like some kind of task where the two of you are trying to find a strategy or a solution to your problem.
And keep in mind that every single problem that you try to solve with your partner will bring you closer and that’s the beauty of relationships.
2. Arguments about the future
Arguing about the future can be really exhausting if your partner doesn’t have the same goals as you do. But this doesn’t mean that your partner is not the right person for you.
Just because they have different opinions, it doesn’t mean you should criticize them. Instead, listen to them and try to find a way to make it work. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
If you believe that you will succeed in finding a way to stay together in the future no matter what happens, you can be sure that your future will be bright and exciting. And this is a sign of a strong relationship.
3. Arguments about busy schedules
I know it’s hard when your partner is too busy or always on the road, leaving you home alone (or you’re the one doing it to them). And the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of this is to blame them for not being there for you.
When you start arguing about it with your partner, don’t think that the two of you are doomed to fail. In your head, it might seem that you’re arguing because of your partner’s absence but actually you’re arguing because you want to spend more time together.
Wanting to spend more time together is the ultimate sign of unconditional love and you should never see it as something horrible. Only the strongest relationships survive this and that is how you know you’re with the right one.
4. Arguments about friends
Do you like your partner’s friends? Does your partner like your friends? Are you constantly arguing about someone in your friendship circle?
If you do, don’t think that you’re with the wrong person in your relationship just because you don’t like someone whom they like. Perhaps you see their friends differently from how they see them and you should think of changing your perspective as to how you see things around you.
Also, arguments about friends are extremely beneficial for your relationship because that way you are reducing the number of toxic people in your circle. And this will benefit you, your partner and the people you’re hanging around with.
5. Debates about intellectual topics
Philosophy, politics, recent events… you name it. If you feel like everything you start talking about ends up with you both arguing about that particular topic, this doesn’t mean that you’re not good for each other.
It means you have your own wishes, views and desires and you don’t just accept everything you get from your partner. By arguing about different things, you’re challenging them to fight you back and in that way, you’re improving yourselves and your relationship as well.
After all, ‘The couples that are ‘meant to be’ are the ones who go through everything that is meant to tear them apart and come out even stronger than they were before.’