It is hard enough to live in this world even without anxiety, let alone if you’re struggling with it. Today’s world is too fast and disgusting—selfish—and it is really hard to find your place and to calm yourself down.
Unfortunately, stress has become a normal part of our everyday lives. So, how to deal with it?
Thankfully there are many tools and techniques to keep your anxiety under control. Check out some of the ways to calm yourself down.
1. Accept the fact you’re anxious
The first step to healing is admitting you have a problem. This is also the hardest step. Most of us won’t admit something is wrong because after we admit it, it’s time to take action—to do something about it. And that realization is the hardest part.
You have to make peace with your reality because your anxiety lives in your reality. You have to understand that things are the way they are and if you decide to ignore them, problems won’t go away. They will be only worse.
There’s no use in putting your problems (anxiety) under the carpet because you will face them sooner or later—better sooner than later.
2. Take a deep breath
Anytime you feel anxiety is getting the best of you, just take a pause. Imagine you are all alone in the world. There is no one out there to bother you and there is no one out there who will judge you. It is just you—all alone.
All your problems can wait. Just take a deep breath. Try to calm yourself down. Nothing will change in a minute or two and nothing will happen because you are in control over your life—you and no one else.
Take a deep breath and hold it in for a while, then exhale. Do this for a couple of minutes and it will calm your nervous system. You will be ready to face whatever awaits you in a calm and appropriate manner.
3. Your thoughts are playing tricks on you
Keep in mind that whenever you are about to do something that makes you anxious, the first thing you say to yourself is: “Oh my God, I can’t do this. I’m not ready.” This is what your mind is telling you, but listen to this. You are the controller of your mind. You can order it to tell you whatever you want. This time, you subconsciously wanted your mind to tell you that you can’t do something.
You see? It’s up to you. Order your mind to tell you: “You can do it!”, even if you think you can’t and it turns out that you fail. Because, next time you try to do it, you won’t be afraid of the failure, since you’ve already failed once, and you will succeed.
Don’t imagine catastrophes which are unlikely to happen. Ask yourself: “Is this realistic?”, “What are the chances of this happening?” or “What would I do if something like that really happens?”.
4. Use positive reinforcement
This term is used in psychology—the process of encouraging or establishing a pattern of behavior by offering reward when the behavior is exhibited. Use this on yourself. I know it might sound a bit too much, but it works.
Any time you succeed in getting over an anxious situation, reward yourself with something you like. By yourself your favorite chocolate or go to see a movie you’ve been wanting to. Choose something that makes you happy and reward yourself for conquering your anxiety—for showing her who’s the real boss.
5. Don’t think about the future
You have to focus on right now—the moment you are living in, the moment when something that is making you anxious is happening. Don’t obsess over the future and future events.
Don’t obsess over future outcomes of the situation you’re in because you won’t be able to have an influence on the outcomes. You are only able to act upon the present in order to change the outcome.
If you live in the moment, you will have higher chances of improving your ability to manage the future.
I know it’s hard to lead everyday battles with anxiety. I know sometimes you just want to give up, but don’t. There are little tricks that can make you feel better and less anxious.
But, there’s a catch—this works only if you allow yourself to feel better.