I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn’t matter what you do, or who you are or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together. – Julia Roberts When we mention the words ‘old soul’, we immediately start thinking about someone who seems to have been born 40 years ago. Many relationships are based on ego–centered games, just like the ones we see on TV every day. People usually think they “need” to have another person by their side to pick up the pieces of their broken heart. But something in you is craving for a deeper level of love that goes beyond melodrama and lust. Have you ever wondered why is it so difficult to find someone to walk next to you? Old souls have the best intentions when it comes to relationships, but here are 12 reasons why they often struggle with finding love.

1. You have a strong sense of your identity.

You know perfectly well who you are. You also know what you want when it comes to relationships – what works for you and what does not. Although this is a very useful life skill, it greatly reduces your chances of finding the right person. You do not want to be with someone who doesn’t mind ‘putting up’ with you, but rather someone who encourages you to ‘put forth’ your trust.

2. Your intuition often ruins your relationship.

You usually over think some things and at the same time, turn on your feelings to maximum. You have ended some of the most beautiful relationships because something bothered you. When it comes to love, you want to find someone who is ‘all grown up’ in order for him to be able to deal with the ‘baggage’ you often carry.

3. If it is not forever, it does not suit you.

Life is full of challenges and adventures. You refuse to waste your time in casual relationships. You appreciate them, as you appreciate everything that comes as a lesson in your life, but you don’t put real effort and they usually fade away into nothingness. You find it difficult to settle for comfort, lust, superficial attraction, security, or ‘to keep each other company’. You just need someone who will share your values and be a ‘one true love’ companion forever.  

4. You have a higher purpose in life.

Maybe you want to be a doctor or dedicate yourself to volunteer in a country that needs help, to get your family to live better, or live your life to the fullest. No matter what your goal is, you just want to breathe and enjoy your life journey.

5. You do not want to settle for someone who is not your soulmate.

You appreciate your time and yourself way too much to settle for the first person that pays attention to you. Not only your soulmate must value and love you, but he must complete and support you in all life circumstances, regardless if some things become difficult. He has to endure with you for eternity. Frankly speaking, why should you settle for less??

6. Many people can arouse your passion, but you need compatibility.

You feel things so deeply. Believe me, THIS is one of those things that people find fascinating about you. Finding someone who can be your friend, your ‘partner in crime’ and your lover will be totally worth it. Love simply needs to be nurtured. Words are empty when they aren’t followed by action.  

7. You are less likely to use one of the ‘modern’ ways of meeting people.

I am not saying you shouldn’t use online sites or applications to meet people. You do not talk to people in bars and you don’t allow them to dance with you either. You know that the two of you have to be friends before being a couple. If you enter a relationship because you’re being bored or if you feel you need someone because you’re feeling incomplete or scared to be lonely, believe me, that relationship will fail.

8. You attract people who need help, not love.

You have a warm and healing presence that attracts a lot of people who need shelter. However, you do not need a man who acts like a kid or is expecting you to be like his mother. What you need is a partner who can really help you during the difficult and complicated timeslife. Of course, our natural response is to offer help. However, you realize that entering a relationship in order to ‘fix’ a partner is not so smart.  

9. You dislike the “game”.

The ‘hunt’ process is confusing and exhausting for people with ‘old souls’. Why should you pretend that people you care about are the ones you actually don’t care about? Why do you need to flirt if you can talk about personal and interesting things? Why wouldn’t you ask important questions? Not only is he not meant for you, he’s not interested in you at all.

10. Your expectations are sky-high.

It sounds nasty, but it’s about you giving yourself so much and putting so much effort that you do not expect anything less in return, especially from your partner. As long as you do not abuse and ask for more than you actually give, it is not necessarily a bad thing.