Relationship Advice:two Magic Words That Have A Magical Effect On A Man
Two magic words that work their magic on a man. It confuses him, but in an instant, it makes him like you. If a man has ever told you that he is not ready for a serious relationship, then you know how disappointing it is.
Investing your time and feelings in a guy, only to hear later that he doesn’t want anything serious… after that, you can curse the entire male gender. But before that, try the following two magic words.
First of all, I want to say that you will of course want to argue with him and explain that his reasons for not being ready are stupid. But you shouldn’t do that. Otherwise, you will be like his mother, talking and explaining things to him. And men are not turned on by their own mothers. Instead, here’s what you need to do.
When you hear some stupid excuse or pretense from him, say the magic words: “I understand.” And say nothing more.
Pause, and then he himself will start to find even more trivial reasons that will anger you even more and prompt you to start an argument. But again, instead of arguing and unnecessary words, just say, “I understand.”
This will lead him to one simple conclusion: “She understands me.”
I’m not saying you have to agree with him. I’m saying that everyone has the right to be, feel, and think the way they feel and think.
And while you may not agree with him, by saying “I understand,” you are acknowledging his right to make that decision.
At this point, he may offer you a compromise. For example, “But we can continue dating and see how things go.” Then you say, “I appreciate that you still want to date me, but I’m not okay with it. I love you, but not more than I love myself.”
He may leave without knowing what to say. And this is not a problem, because men fall in love when they are not near you. You need to resist the temptation to call him or text him and let him come to you.
If you have enough patience to wait until he calls or writes, then when he does, he will be ready for a serious relationship with you—he will come to this himself. And if not, then this is not your man.
