When we get caught up in our everyday lives, we forget to hold balance in all aspects of life. In long-term relationships, people often forget how necessary balance actually is and how an imbalanced relationship doesn’t bring anything but destruction to both sides. For that same reason, I am giving you today a few tips and tricks on how to find balance and restore balance in your relationship if you truly want it to last a long time, because sometimes, balance isn’t really what we expect it to be.

1. Compromise

To make a compromise is to meet your partner halfway. You two might have a disagreement when it comes to a certain topic, like maybe ideas for traveling. If you two really can’t figure out a destination, why don’t you simply look at other options and find a compromise that will help the both of you get the best out of your vacation? Maybe your partner is giving up way too much for this trip, so why not give him/her the opportunity to choose the destination? That’s how balance is formed.

2. Accept the fact that you’re different

No two people in this world are the same. There will always be disagreements and fights because you simply cannot think, feel and do the same things constantly. Your job here is to accept the fact that there will be times when you two don’t think the same and you won’t act the same when it comes to certain things but trust your partner and be prepared to work on making your relationship better even at times when you’re fighting.

3. Be empathetic

Empathy is a great tool if you know how to use it. Being an empath means to be able to sense when your partner has had enough housework and jumping in to help her because you want her to get a rest. Being an empath means not going out tonight because your partner has had a rough day and they need a shoulder to cry on. You know that your partner will do all these things for you too, because you are both empaths who love each other very much. So don’t hesitate to help.

4. Talk about everything

My friends like to joke around that I have to tattoo the word ‘communication’ somewhere on my body, because I lay so much importance on it. Communication really is the key to solving all the problems you two might have in the relationship. Ask your partner about their views on balance and your relationship. Make an authentic balance within that little world of yours that can’t be shaken by anything. Don’t just wait for them to tell you out of the blue, ask all the things you want to know.

5. Take control over your own life

If you are waiting for your partner to solve all the problems in your life, if you are waiting for them to give you much-needed attention so you can easily stop thinking about certain problems, then your relationship has no balance whatsoever. Take control over your own life! You and your partner have two separate lives and you have to take care of yours. If your partner has to be the one taking care of the both of you then your relationship isn’t going anywhere. Become more independent and know that you can always rely on yourself.

6. Take timeouts

After a long day of fighting, do you really believe that it’s best for the two of you to stay together longer with these negative vibes surrounding you both? Sometimes it’s good to just take a timeout because balance means that you will have to take it slower the next few days because you were both so fired up the days prior. That’s why you shouldn’t hesitate to take a timeout; your partner will understand if you tell them why you think that ‘space’ and a little timeout is needed.

7. Give!

Being selfish in a relationship and taking everything for yourself is a really bad idea. You two have to give and take the same amount to stay in balance. So, give! Give your love and kindness to them and be sure to receive it back, because that is what a truly healthy couple is all about.