When you are engaged in a love relationship, you somehow get blinded by all that false shine. You don’t see the whole picture because you are in love and you can’t see all the red flag signs of a potentially abusive relationship.
That’s how many women get trapped and they stay with their toxic partner even if they don’t treat them as they should. And here are some of the most common reasons they do that, even though deep down they know it does not benefit them.
1. They are scared to leave because they are not financially stable
Many women stay with their toxic partner because they are not financially stable. In fact, many women are totally dependent on their partner and especially if kids are involved, they would rather keep their mouth shut and put up with any shit that gets served in front of them.
But that is not a long-term solution and it just gets worse. If he sees that you are dependent on him, he will do whatever he wants. That’s why you need to confront him and seek help wherever you can.
2. They think they can help their abuser
Abusers have their own tricks and manipulation methods that will make their victim bound to them. That’s why many women will think that their abuser will totally fall apart if they leave them. They think they can help them to get over everything and they stay even if they don’t feel comfortable in that relationship.
These women are emotional creatures who believe that everyone is good like them and that some people simply need some time to actually realize what kinds of problems they created in the relationship.
3. They believe their abuser will kill himself if they leave him
This is another lie all abusers say to their victim because they don’t want to let them go. That’s why these women stay with them because they don’t want to be responsible for the death of the person they are madly in love with.
But the thing is he would never kill himself. He loves himself too much to do something like that but it works for him to say a lie like this because then he is sure his victim won’t leave.
4. They stay because of the kids
Maybe one of the worst reasons to stay in an abusive relationship is because of the kids. Just imagine what your child goes through every time you fight with your partner.
The way you talk to each other is not what they should learn. That is not how a good role model acts so please don’t ever stay with someone who abuses you for the benefit of the kids.
Nobody will benefit in that relationship, especially the kids who will believe that kind of behavior is normal.
5. They stay because they don’t think they can do better
Abused women are bruised, broken and tired to the bone. That’s why it is pretty easy to convince them that if they leave, they will never find someone who will accept them as they are.
They believe they are not beautiful, worthy or good enough for another man but the truth is they are even more than that. They just need to find a man who will see all that their partner didn’t see.
6. They stay because they were manipulated
The problem with abusive relationships is that an abuser is very good at manipulating their victim. They will use all kinds of tricks just to make their partner bound to them. They will tell them they can’t live without them and that they need them in order to move forward.
In those situations, women often feel sorry for them and they decide to put up with everything their abuser does. They think it is just bad timing and that it won’t last too long. They think their love will change them but as time passes, it just gets worse.
It is like a magic circle they can’t escape from.
7. They stay because they are scared for their life
Many women stay in an abusive relationship because they are scared for their life and the lives of their children. Their abuser often threatens to kill them if they try to leave or say that they will never leave them alone.
That’s why abused women decide it is better to stay in those circumstances rather than ask for help or an alternative. They can’t see all the mind gamestheir abuser plays on them and they often totally lose themselves due to the situation they are stuck in.
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