You know that feeling when almost every relationship you have ever been in seems like a complete mess? It’s like a series of disasters and you can’t help but feel like you have something inside of you that draws all the wrong guys to you.
Most of us have been there at some point, thinking that something is wrong with us, yet we never get to the bottom of things. That’s because the real causes of all the lousy relationships we’ve ever been in are things that we would never think of and that is are our virtues and strong points.
When it comes to toxic relationships, our strengths become our downsides. These types of people need our virtues and strengths. They need them so they can take from us and emotionally drain us as much as they can.
To make it clearer, these are some of the reasons you keep attracting all the wrong guys:
1. You are a great listener.
Even if this is one of the greatest virtues a woman can possess and one that the right guy would very much welcome, the wrong guys will just exploit it. Being a great listener makes you the perfect target for a narcissist.
They love talking about themself, so all the communication you have with them will be completely one-sided. They aren’t interested in listening about your day or anything you have to say; their only interest is that you listen carefully to every word they have to say, that you are there to support and admire them.
If you are an empathic listener and you can give meaningful advice to people who have been through some kind of hardship, you’ve probably been the target of emotional manipulators because they use their life story and your sense of compassion to control you.
2. You are not stingy with your time.
You do it from the goodness of your heart, from the love you feel for them that makes you do anything to make the other person happy.
You have the best intentions when you go out of your way to please them but the thing is, you get too accommodating and too attentive to his needs.
Your time in the hands of the wrong guy will just be wasted. He will take it for granted and think he has every right to come and go from your life as he pleases.
3. You are even-tempered.
You are a balanced individual and that makes you easy to be around. Your calmness attracts everyone to you and the wrong guys are not excluded from this.
Being even-tempered means you always think about your partner’s needs before you think of your own because you always put yourself in his shoes before making a decision. The problem is, the wrong guy will never do the same.
4. You have a positive outlook on life.
Who wouldn’t want to have all the positivity they can possibly get in their life? Your sunshiny personality, smiles, and radiance are every guy’s dream.
Generally, there is no better trait than positivity but the downside is that you see it where it doesn’t exist. You tend to see only good in people and you ignore that little voice telling you something is off.
5. You are a peacemaker.
You hate fighting and you strongly believe that an honest conversation is all you need. Unfortunately, toxic people pick up on that. They use your mild nature for as long as they possibly can.
They do it until they reach your breaking point and you end up unwillingly fighting with them anyway. You will bottle up all of your negative emotions inside and they are bound to burst at some point.
These five traits are great to have, so hold on to them. Don’t let bad relationships keep you from being a good person. One day you will have somebody who will appreciate and cherish all your strong points.
Until then, listen to that little voice inside of you telling you that he is the wrong guy and stay as far away from him as you possibly can. Remember that not everybody’s intentions are pure and not everyone’s heart is as good as yours. Not everyone is capable of your kind of love.