We all know that men think very differently from us, and because of that, we can get mixed messages. Not only that, but we can discover that the things that we want can be completely different from what our guy is envisioning for the future. We need to be able to hack his brain and find out what it is that he is looking for.

Not that we would recommend ever being fake to get a guy, but sometimes it can help us win a guy over if we know what he likes to begin with. These are the tips you have been waiting for. Check out these 20 things you do that make him think you’re wife material.

20 Be His Best Friend

One thing that guys consider when they are looking for a wife is whether or not he considers you to be his best friend. It’s true, that most guys have male best friends, but it’s just not the same kind of connection that he has with his mate.

Sure, guys need someone that they can be “dudes” with, but being best friends with their soul mate is completely different.

Show him that you are his best friend by the things you do every day. You don’t need to act because it’s how you feel and you will always be there for him.

19 Be The Most Captivating Thing In His Life

Sometime men won’t commit to a relationship because they think that once they get a girlfriend their lives will become boring. If you are captivating, however, a guy isn’t going to be able to resist you. “I avoided commitment for a long time because I was scared it would get boring if I stuck with one girl. What changed was one day I thought about my girlfriend and never [being with] another new girl again and instead of panicking like I’d always done before, I realized I was okay with that. It actually made me happy to think about just being with her.” -Colin, 32

18 Make Him Want To Be Exclusive

In order for him to want to be exclusive with you, he has to see you as a prize and cherish you. If he only sees you as someone who is “good enough” for now, you will never become exclusive.

If you are still seeing other people, then you need to stop so that you can show that you are serious about him.

The same goes for him, you need to ask him to stop and make a decision about being exclusive as that’s where you are headed. If he’s still seeing other girls, he might think you’re okay with keeping it casual.

17 Show Him That You Support Him

One thing that a guy is going to look out for when he’s looking for a wife is whether you are there for him to support him when he needs it. “I had a sudden health condition where I had to spend a week in the hospital. It was out of nowhere. It was incredibly lonely, I realized for the first time that I couldn’t do everything on my own. My girlfriend came every single day and was extremely supportive during my recovery. It made me feel confident that she’d always be there for me, that we were a good team.” -Paul, 31

16 Be Confident In Your Relationship

We can’t say it enough: men love confidence! It’s a very attractive quality that a woman can have and if a guy is going to choose a wife he would much rather have a confident girl on his arm.

If you command attention when you walk into a room, your guy is going to love showing you off.

They like to see us keep our cool during an argument or commanding attention while at work without resorting to crying or immature tantrums. Plus, a confident woman is unlikely to freak out on him about things because she is insecure.

15 Show Him You Are Thoughtful

When you are thinking about your guy and you do something to show it, that sticks in his head as special. Maybe you know he’s studying hard and you make sure he is fed, and that’s the sort of thing that a guy looks for when he’s choosing a permanent partner. “My then girlfriend ordered pizza for me and my roommate after I broke a date with her because I realized I needed to spend the time studying for the bar (my roommate and I had both just graduated law school). It showed how mature she is to not be upset by breaking a date for a good reason, and just how nice she is.” -Brian, 35

14 You Have Similar Interests

If your man can enjoy some of his favorite activities with you, then that’s huge.

Especially if you have a genuine interest in them as well, it will pretty much be like he’s hanging with his best friend.

“I started dating my wife because she was a friend of a friend and as I got to know her, I realized we had all the same favorite things. She was the only one who wanted to go to music shows with me — that’s how we got close. We are both big Tim & Eric fans, both love fantasy books and dumb things like old Celebrity Jeopardy sketches from SNL.” -Andy, 27

13 Rock The Lunch Note

There are a ton of sweet things that you can find on Pinterest to bring into your relationship to make your man feel like he’s the king of the world. One popular choice is including notes in his lunch when you make it. The fun part is thinking of fun notes that you can include in his lunch for a surprise. Maybe you want to tell him what you plan on doing together when he gets home. Whatever it is that you choose to put on the note, it’s going to put a smile on his face and likely give you a place in his heart.

12 Show Your Independence

No guy wants to babysit you for the entire relationship. There are going to be times when you aren’t together or he’s having a guy’s night. Sometimes, he just doesn’t want you blowing up his phone wondering where he is, especially when you have no reason to be suspicious.

You need to have your own life even if you are in a relationship.

When you show your guy that you enjoy time away as well, you are showing independence and that’s attractive. It gives both of you a chance to miss each other and to have new things to talk about when you get together again.

11 Celebrate Things In Your Life

Be the kind of woman that likes to celebrate life in every way. Celebrate not only your achievements but other people’s as well. It’s an awesome way to bring happiness to other people and keep your own spirits up. Even if it’s something small, celebrate your guy’s accomplishments. “Every time I told my girlfriend good news she would bring a bottle of champagne over. It was kind of egregious in some scenarios, but I loved that she always wanted to celebrate and have fun. It made me realize that’s the kind of person I wanted to be around forever.” -Chris, 28

10 You Don’t Try To Change Him

Another fear that a guy has is that he is afraid that once he gets in a relationship that you will try to change him. Or worse, that he just won’t be allowed to be himself, especially around your friends or family.

But if you really love him, you won’t try to change him; you will love him for who he is.

“Every girl I’ve ever dated hated that I played video games. When I brought my now-wife to my apartment for the first time, she saw my gaming setup and asked to play. I knew she was special.” -Zach, 30

9 Be His Biggest Fan

When a guy chooses a wife, it’s because he can’t imagine life without you. You are his biggest fan and he knows that. It’s your role to show him that you adore him just like he adores you. After all, you should both be each other’s biggest fan, and you shouldn’t be shy about it, either. “When I lost my job she never nagged me. Not once. She never made me feel small about it. She was unwavering in her encouragement and support of me. I proposed a year later after I’d found a better gig.” -Peter, 30

8 Trust Him Unless He’s Proven Otherwise

Women have a hard time trusting a man when they have been burned before. But what you have to remember is that your new man is not your ex and he deserves to be trusted until proven otherwise. If he breaks your trust, that’s one thing, but if he’s done nothing wrong then he shouldn’t have to deal with you freaking out about every little thing.

Don’t sabotage your new relationship because of something from your past.

One way to win him over is to believe him when he tells you where he’s been or who he was with.

7 Cook For Him

Whether you are someone that can cook or not, it can’t be denied that a guy likes it when a woman cooks for him. It’s a way of showing that you want to care for him. “I told my girlfriend I wanted to lose weight. She invited me to stop by her apartment for dinner most nights, even when we didn’t have plans later on. I was mostly eating junk before and I was convinced “healthy” either meant “starving” or “disgusting.” But almost every night she made these amazing meals. I learned how to enjoy eating vegetables, and I lost weight almost without trying. Her support and generosity blew me away, and it didn’t hurt that she was an amazing cook.” -Kyle, 32

6 Don’t Be Majorly High Maintenance

There are some guys out there that don’t mind high maintenance girls. Just look at Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. They are both high-maintenance, true.

But for the most part, a guy likes a girl to be able to go with the flow.

“I wanted to take my girlfriend on a special trip to my family’s cabin, but it ended up raining the whole time. Rather than sulking inside (like I’m inclined to do) she took the terrible weather as a challenge. She went to town and came back with some silly kid’s board games. We ended up playing [a grown-up version of] Connect Four. It was one of the best weekends ever.” -Ryan, 26

5 Get Along With His Friends

Now, we aren’t suggesting that you get along with a bunch of guys who behave like idiots. But if his friends are cool, then you should make an effort to be friends with them as well and your man will appreciate that. If he has been friends with his boys since childhood, then they are unlikely to be going anywhere. You don’t want to be unfriendly towards them because if your guy feels as if he has to choose between you and his friends, that won’t make him feel good. Plus, if you plan on making this relationship into a marriage, there’s bound to be a bit of compromise required when it comes to spending time with each other’s friends.

4 Don’t Play Games With Him

Guys hate game playing just as much as women do and if you love playing games, then you are not likely to be his wife.

Grow up and act like an adult especially when it comes to treating your man right.

“I’d been dating for a long time by the time I met Ashley, what was refreshing about her is that she never once played games. She told me she loved me first, always texted back right away, and was just comfortable being herself, even if it meant she wasn’t always “hard to get.” I liked that because I don’t want to play games for the rest of my life. I just want an honest relationship.” -Pat, 35

3 Be As Tough As You Can Be

One thing that guys love is a tough woman. We aren’t talking about just physically tough but mentally as well. Marriages go through ups and downs over the course of years and when it comes to the downs it helps if you are mentally strong to get you through the tougher parts. “Every time we had something bad happen to either of us she never once got defeated about it. She was always ready to put up a fight. It was during one of those times I realized I wanted to be with her forever.” -Robert, 25

2 Stand Out From The Crowd

You don’t want to be the same as every other woman out there, which partly means being real about who you are.

You want to stand out so that your man knows that you are something special that he wants to keep.

“I started playing this game with my girlfriend when I was pretty sure we were going to get married. Every time I met a new woman I tried to think of a way she was better than my gf. It sounds mean, but I was just trying to make sure my decision was the right one. And in the end, I didn’t find a single positive quality in another woman that she didn’t have in spades.” -Rory, 29

1 Argue In A Healthy Way

There is no way around it: you guys are going to argue at some point. It’s the way that you argue, however, that is going to determine whether you guys stay together or not. A guy doesn’t want to marry a woman who is going to scream at him when she’s mad. “I grew up with a family that screamed at each other when something was wrong and I hated it. I promised that I would never be in a relationship where we always fought and were angry, especially if we had kids. My wife never gets angry, or when she does, she takes a minute to calm down and then figure out what we can do to make the situation better.” -Ed, 28