15 Traits That Define A Clingy Girlfriend (And How To Get Rid Of Them)
What Makes A Clingy Girlfriend?
When people are in love, they often get clingy, especially girls. Even though there’s a thin line between love and clinginess, your significant other won’t understand that too well.
So, when a girl starts to act like she needs her guy to be with her all the time, he’ll probably run and won’t look back, scared off by her neediness, unaware that this is not the real her; it’s just her insecurity manifesting itself in a faulty way.
Maybe you’ve also been clingy in your past relationships without even knowing how long it went on for, and maybe because of that they were all doomed. Your boyfriends were given very little personal space, which is one of those little things that mean a lot in the long run.
A clingy girlfriend is very scared of the idea of a break up, which is why she gets so jealous of his female friends and starts incessantly texting him a little too much when she feels threatened by them.
Possessiveness is one of the key traits of a clingy girlfriend and the less time he dedicates to her, the more she’s going to start badgering him with text messages and give him zero to no alone time.
The first time he starts noticing the little signs of her clinginess, instead of cutting her loose, the best idea is to have a heart-to-heart with his girl. This is rarely something that can’t be fixed, so he should give her some time and show her his patience.
If this is a new relationship, he should give her a chance to show him that she does have her interests and isn’t as needy as she may be presenting herself. He needs to trust the vibe she gave out when he first met her, and remind himself of how amazingly cool she is when her low self-esteem isn’t getting the best of her.
She may seem like a clinger now, but that’s only because she cares so much. And clingy girlfriends are nothing if not caring and compassionate. Needy girls can end up being guys’ best friends and lovers all in one, once seen through their insecurity.
Guys, hold onto your girls and help them get better. And girls, if you find yourselves in this, just know that this is just a small part of you and it’s easily fixed – read and implement these tips to get to a healthy place and be the best girlfriend your man could ever wish for.
1. She doesn’t give him enough space
This is something most guys are terrified of. They simply hate it when their girlfriend doesn’t leave them any alone time that they badly need. They hate it when she’s always there when they’re talking on the phone, texting their friends, and talking to people on the street.
You know, nobody likes to be suffocated with love and attention because that’s not natural. So even if she loves her man and she wants to spend some time with him, it’s important to remember that maybe he needs some time for himself just to organize his thoughts.
Trust me, he’ll be so thankful for that and the relationship will be healthy and stable. Everybody needs a bit of personal space and providing that for a man will help the relationship flourish.
2. She talks even when he’s not interested
The worst thing for a man is a girl who talks for hours over the phone about things that he’s not interested in. This can drive every man crazy, so phone calls are best kept short and informative. She can ask her man how his day was or just check up on him, but she should try to avoid a long conversation, especially if she’ll be the only one talking.
Just imagine how it would feel having a partner who only talked about themselves. It would suck, right? That’s how a man feels around a clingy girlfriend every day.
Talking to best friends about all those girl-related, gossipy things is the best way to go here, all the while keeping the things regarding the relationship for the partner.
3. She doesn’t have her own life and hates him for having his own
A girl like this wants her man to be dedicated to her 24/7, but that is impossible. I mean, in a normal and healthy relationship, both partners should have their private lives with their friends and family and then enjoy their life together when the right time comes for that.
If you’re the type of girl who hates on her man for going out and having some fun, you can be sure that you’re being clingy. So, to avoid your man feeling sorry for you, go out and have some fun of your own. You only have one life so enjoy it while you can.
P.S. Girls who have a lot of fun on their own are very attractive to men! Show him you’ve got a full life that you live like there’s no tomorrow and I promise you he’ll be more drawn to you than ever. Happy girls are the sexiest!
4. She’s insecure when hot girls are next to her man
For some reason, a girl like this thinks that all the other girls are way better than she is and that her boyfriend will leave her if he finds a girl more fun and attractive than her. This is the worst thing that can happen to a girl in a relationship because by thinking like this, she’ll never make any progress with her self-esteem.
To feel good in your skin, you should try to flirt with some good-looking guys when your man isn’t around. After you do that, you will feel better and desirable and you won’t be so clingy because you will realize that there are more cute guys out there, other than your man.
And yes, you will start to gain a different outlook on life. For as long as you just look and don’t touch, it’ll boost your confidence and help you get your mojo back!
5. She doesn’t like it when her man spends time with his friends
This is her nightmare, literally. She thinks that by doing this, her man will be unfaithful to her because his male friends will make him hit on another girl. That’s why she wants him only for herself, because when he is with her he will do everything that she wants.
But you need to know that this is not a good foundation for a healthy relationship – you need to change something if you want to keep your man close.
Please bear in mind that you can’t make him love you if he doesn’t feel it and that you will just make things worse if you try and keep him by force. In the end, if the two of you were meant to be together, you will find your way back.
6. She is extremely suspicious
She is suspicious of every girl who enters her man’s life. Well, you know what? The more suspicious you are, the more your man will feel that and wish to end the relationship with you. If he wants to have an affair, you won’t be able to forbid him from doing so. Only his love for you can stop him, so don’t sweat the small stuff.
By doing this, you are harming yourself and focusing on the bad things instead of the good ones. Try to relax – if one man doesn’t respect you and love you, it means that he isn’t the right one for you. So, what you need to do is let the wrong one go in order for the right one to take his place. And trust me, this attitude will pay off in the long run. It may seem substantially difficult, but with time, you’ll see that it was the best decision you could’ve made.
7. She wants to be in touch all the time
This is one of the most evident (and irritating) traits of every clingy girlfriend. She will constantly call her man to check up on him and ask him what he’s doing. She does this to find out if he is in the company of any girls.
This may flatter him at the beginning of the relationship when everything’s still spicy and nice, but as time passes, he’ll become more and more irritated by her frequent calls.
So, to keep him interested and into you as much as possible, don’t check up on him every half an hour. Make him miss you by having super fun with your own friends. It’ll only be a matter of time before he looks for you just like you were looking for him.
And once he’s the one pursuing you, it’ll be clear how clinginess is never the answer. Live your life, have your fun, and give him the chance to miss you. That’s your solution and a way to keep him hooked for a long time.
8. She thinks her partner doesn’t love her as much as she loves him
This happens when a girl is clingy and obsessed with a certain man in her life. Only in this state of mind will she think that her man doesn’t love her as much as she loves him. She never sees all the good stuff, only the bad, and with that she starts creating some untrue and unhealthy ideas about her love life.
On the other hand, if you really see that your man is neglecting you and that he is canceling your dates at the last minute just so he can go out with his friends, you should know that’s not the way a girl should be treated.
In either case, the best thing would be to sit down and talk to him openly. Maybe he’s keeping some feelings to himself so that if you say something first, he will find it easier to open up to you. If this method doesn’t work, just finish your glass of wine and leave as he is not the one who deserves you.
9. She wants him to commit ASAP
When a girl is clingy and needy, she’ll want her man just to herself. That’s why she’ll insist on getting married even if she’s not quite sure that she’s really ready for it. She thinks that she will never find a man who’ll love her like her partner and therefore has to use all means necessary to make him commit to her.
She’ll do crazy things and believe that’s the right way to win a guy over. But the truth is that you need to listen to your own heart when it comes to love and not overreact with love bombing. No man likes it, and instead of making him stay, it will just push him far away from you.
Guys often get cold feet when confronted with situations like this, so don’t think that you will get him if you keep on doing all these things. Let it happen organically, otherwise, it’s doomed to fail at some point.
10. She tells everyone on social media that she’s met her soulmate
Okay, many girls often post photos with their boyfriends and stuff, but a clingy girlfriend goes one step further. She posts photos of her man saying that he’s the best thing that has ever happened to her and she’d be lost without him. She says that to her friends on social media and many of them think she’s a pain in the ass because of it.
Other people also have their loved ones, but they don’t talk about them 24/7 on Facebook. To her, though, it doesn’t matter. She needs to post it in order to prove to herself that it’s real.
She loves living in her perfect little love bubble where she gets her Prince Charming and everything is peachy. She doesn’t actually live in reality and that might be the reason for her strange behavior. But this is not without a fix. You can love each other in private and it will be just as amazing. The less people know about it, the healthier your relationship.
11. She is obsessed with her partner
She believes that the man she’s met is her perfect match and she will never find someone like that ever again. That’s why she becomes so obsessed with him. She works hard on keeping him close, and even if her partner doesn’t feel good in that relationship, she tries to convince him to stay because she can make him happy.
She’s pretty obsessed with him, and believes that she’d fall apart if he had to leave. And if another woman seduced him, her whole world would come crashing down. That’s why she does things that she never thought she’d do, and in so doing, loses her self-esteem. A girl like this actually has a lot to offer, but she lets her love blind her and makes herself appear desperate.
Once you see that your world is just as amazing without him, will you understand that a guy isn’t the center of your universe. He has become an integral part of your world, but he’s never irreplaceable. There’s plenty more fish in the sea.
12. She has low self-esteem
One of the reasons a girl becomes clingy can be her low self-esteem. If she thinks that she’s not worthy or good enough, she’ll do whatever it takes to prove the opposite. She’ll even do all the crazy things she thought she’d never try. And all for the wrong reasons.
She doesn’t believe in herself. She doesn’t believe she is beautiful. She thinks she can be replaced with someone better than her, and that feeling is eating her alive. But if she had just a little more faith in herself, perhaps she wouldn’t feel this way. If she had more courage to stand up and fight for herself, she wouldn’t go through all this turmoil.
And in case you are a girl like this, please bear in mind that everything can change in your life if you only change your priorities and outlook on life. Nothing is permanent. You can easily find your way back. Your low self-esteem could be the result of the people you keep around. Make sure those are good, kind people and you’ll start noticing small yet significant changes.
13. She constantly fights with him
A clingy girl always fights with her partner because she doesn’t like it if he pays attention to anyone but her. She wants to be in the spotlight all the time, and if she doesn’t get it, she gets pissed off. The catch is that she has put a lot of effort into her relationship, and if it’s not reciprocated, she’s bound to feel disappointed.
She’s under the impression that her partner will leave her and easily get bored of her. She makes up the worst possible scenario in her mind, and never gives up her negative thoughts. And I must admit, being a girl like this is not easy at all.
She has to fight her inner battles, and only rare people can understand her. But she also needs to know that life is in front of her and that she shouldn’t sweat the small stuff.
14. She’s not calm when he’s not around
A clingy girlfriend isn’t able to be calm if her partner’s not there. She always thinks of the worst possible scenarios about why he isn’t with her. Every time he goes out with his friends, she thinks he’s cheating on her, which gets her so frustrated and sad. And the saddest part is that he genuinely meant no harm.
He just needs some alone time to focus on himself and his friendships, but she has different plans for his time. This can really affect a relationship, so if you possess this trait, try to calm down a little. If you smile at life, it will smile right back at you!
Take it easy. You simply can’t force love to come into your life. It will happen naturally if it’s meant to be. So let it happen and try to find some peace on your own.
15. She thinks every other girl is better than she is
A girl like this believes that she’s not beautiful or good enough for her partner and that he’ll leave her as soon as he finds someone more attractive. But she couldn’t be more wrong – she just doesn’t see her full potential. She’s an amazing and warm person, but unfortunately, in the age of modern dating, things like that don’t really matter that much to some guys anymore.
Don’t let your twisted beliefs make you doubt your beautiful qualities. Not everyone is perfect; therefore, you shouldn’t aspire to be perfect either. You are unique and that’s what the right guy will fall in love with once you meet him. If it hasn’t happened thus far, it only means your guy is out there somewhere waiting for you.
Good things come to those who wait. You are fantastic just the way you are, so let the right many see that and love you for it. Let your one-of-a-kind personality shine, and never underestimate yourself again. You’re far too amazing and strong to let your low confidence weigh you down ever again.