Relationships are hard. And I mean, really hard. You are doing your best, trying to find a way to make it work, but sometimes, regardless of how hard we try, it just doesnโt work out: he is not interested in a relationship; he is a player; there is no chemistry. There are countless reasons, but letโs face it girlsโalmost relationships and commitment phobes are the worst of them all. They make you feel like the luckiest woman alive and they just disappear once things get serious. Itโs not because something is wrong with us; itโs because they are not ready to commit. And it leaves us wondering if every man out there is the same; it leaves us wondering if maybe we are unlovable ones.ย And making someoneย feel like they are unlovableย is the worst thing you can do to the person.ย Trust me, I would know.
We have all found ourselves stuck in front of the wall called โwhat the hell do I do now?โ. Itโs the point of a relationship where you are no longer dating casually, but youโre still not sure if he is interested in getting serious. And dating is already hard as it is without all this wondering if we are the match or not. So, if you are not ready for that serious and awkward conversion and to help you with this problem, we gathered signs he wants something serious. If you donโt find any of these, feel free to walk away. No one deserves your time, unless they are willing to give you theirs.
1. He makes time for you
And I donโt mean that kind of time where he comes to you late at night to have some action or that kind of time where you have to let him know days in advance, so he can fit it in his schedule. He changes his plans for you because he truly enjoys spending time with you. He is out there with his friends and notices that you are not feeling your best and before you even know it, he is right there next to you, keeping you company until you get better. He cancels his already-made up plans, so he can spend the night with you. And he still respects your alone time and your boundaries.
Theย honeymoon phaseย is amazing, we all know it. But even when it is over, he is still thereโmaking plans and going out of his way to make you happy. This is a sure sign he wants something serious with you because he already made you a part of his life even if he didnโt say it to you. Sometimes, actions can tell so much more than words do.
2. He shows you off
Everywhere and to everyone. Players will either show you off at fancy restaurants and at the bar but will never take you out with their friends. Or, they will spend all of the time at home with you because there is a great possibility that he has other hookups. But the man who sees a future with you will never hide you. He will take you everywhere he can because he is truly proud and happy to have you by his side.
He will either introduce you to his friends and family or keep on bragging about you to them and insist that they are so eager to meet you. Thatโs a good sign he is up for a long-term relationship and not justย stringing you along. If introducing you to his family is something he canโt wait to do, there is no reason for you to worry anymore about him being serious.
3. He takes you to his favorite places
We all have favorite places where we go when we feel like contemplating and thinking, places where we go when we are sad and places where we go when we want to enjoy ourselves. Sharing those places with someone new in our lives is like sharing something deeply personal; itโs like taking them to our childhood home. You donโt take just everyone there. You want to be sure that they are going to be there for the long run and that they are actually the kind of person we want to share our place with. If he took you to his favorite bar, appreciate the gesture, because itโs kind of like letting you into his heart. He felt comfortable enough around you to actually share something so intimate.
And even if his favorite bar isnโt the type of place you would go to, trust me: his love for it and enthusiasm for bringing you there will make you see it in a whole new way. It will no longer be the bar around the corner; it will be place just for the two of you. Something like your own piece of heaven.
4. He shows initiative
Whether it comes to planning dates or communicating, he has no problem being the one who will initiate it. You regularly wake up to the โgood morningโ texts and there is no way you can go to sleep if he doesnโt send you โgood nightโ. It may seem that he does it to everyone and he is just being polite, but trust me: he is doing it because he wants toย show you that he cares about you. No man will text multiple times without an answer if he isnโt seriously hooked up to you. And with all of these ghosting trends, he makes sure that you donโt have to worry about him disappearing. He makes sure that you feel wanted and special because you truly are.
And when it comes to dates, he always manages to surprise you. If you are not feeling like going out, he will show up at your place with ice-cream, wine and a list of movies to binge watch. If you mentioned how much you want to go to the movies, he will surprise you with the tickets. Itโs because he listens to you when you are talking and even when what you are saying seems like nonsense, he will still remember it.
5. He shares his past with you
Letโs be honest here, no one feels like talking about their past with just anyone. Yes, we will talk about high school memories, crushes and some mundane stuff, but when it gets deep, we keep our mouths shut until we get to know the other person. And sometimes, not even then do we decide to open up because they show us that theyโre not really worthy of sharing.
But if he shares his past with you, and I mean past lovers, fears and biggest dreams type of past, he is damn serious about you. Men donโt usually open up, but if he opened up to you, thatโs the only sign you really need. Unless he did it like on the first date because that is a whole new level of seriousness. Iโm thinking more like seriously messed up. You donโt really want that kind of man who is too pushy and too eager about getting serious.ย Love and commitmentย take time and a little bit more than just one date.
6. You lose track of time when you are together
Whether you are at a fancy restaurant, hiking or just chilling at home, time just flies by. You genuinely enjoy each otherโs company and you make memories every step of the way. Conversation just flows and there are no awkward silences, because you even enjoy silence when you get to share it. He makes it all look so easy because he is truly interested in everything you have to sayโincluding your opinions, your memories and fears. He is all ears when you are talking and it seems like itโs all he ever wanted to do.
He wants to know more about you and not just how your day went. He wants to get to know you more deeply and opening up with him feels like talking about the weather. And he has no problem with opening up to you, too. This is a sign that spending time with you is something he wants to do for a longer run and he wouldnโt mind if it ends up being a lifelong commitment.
7. He takes you into consideration when making decisions
If you have recognized this sign, congratulations! You have found yourself a man that loves you and wants to keep you around. He will always take your wishes and needs into consideration when making plans because he wants you to be happy as well. Even if itโs deciding when to take days off, he will ask you about it, because he wants to spend them with you. Itโs just another way of him showing how much he cares about you and how much he is actually serious about being with you.
Men who is not there for a longer run will never take you into consideration, because they only care about themselves. They will do as they please and just let you know what they decided. And, sometimes, they wonโt even do that. Thatโs definitely not the type of man you want to have in your life because no matter how much you love them and how hard you try, they will never change. They are trueย narcissistsย who only care about themselves. He will convince you otherwise and make you believe that he is truly there for you, but if you failed to find any of the signs from this list, Iโm afraid that heโs only there for himself.
8. He often asks for your opinion and respects it
The foundation of the strongest relationships is respect. Itโs the mutual admiration and trust we have in each other and without it, itโs hard for a relationship to work out. If he asks for your opinion quite often and actually listens to what you have to say, you have his respect and itโs a great sign of you two making it together. And if he changes his own opinion because of yours, itโs even better.
It means that he is not an egomaniac who believes that he is the best one out there. It means that he respects your knowledge and isnโt afraid to admit that he is not the smartest person on the planet. Letโs be real girls, we have all met someone like that. But if your man is truly amazed with your passions and the way you think,ย he is in love with you truly, madly and deeply. And Iโm not talking just about your body; Iโm talking about the whole package here. Body, heart AND mind.
9. He has no problem talking about the future
A great way to get to know what the hell is going in that head of his is to ask him about the future, And not the future of your relationship. Ask him about his plans for work, about holidays and stuff like that. If heโs already counted you in those plans, you donโt have to look any further for signs of getting serious. He already is.
And itโs truly amazing if you donโt have to ask him about the future. If he talks about it with you and makes plans for a longer run, he already made up his mind. To him, itโs no longer casual dating and itโs not questionable if he is going to stay or not. He is sure of his feelings and all he does now is make sure youโre on the same page with him. Itโs making you feel loved and safe in the relationship.
10. โYOUโ and โIโ became โWEโ
He no longer talks about โhisโ wishes and needs and there is no โIโ. Itโs โweโ and you can actually feel he means it. He already sees you as one because thatโs what love is truly about. You are two individuals who are pieces of art for themselves, but together you make one hell of a masterpiece. Together you create something so much more than just two people being together, and thatโs something he already feels and makes sure you feel it too.