We all have two kinds of people in life: the ones who tear you down and the ones who build you up. Unfortunately, somehow it seems like there are more of those who tear people down in this world.
With time, people have grown distant and somehow careless of other peopleâs feelings.
âIt was just a joke; I didnât mean it like that!â is just not enough of an excuse. It seems like people enjoy making jokes regarding your insecurities especially when youâre in a large group of people. Their insults tear you down.
Just donât. Stop it!
Their constant criticism tears you down. Maybe they do it unconsciously, but what are the odds?
It seems like all they notice about you are bad things. Itâs like they are watching each step you take and waiting for your mistakes just to rub your nose in them.
Theyâre ignoring you tears you down.
All your unanswered questions, unanswered calls, and your inability to speak when you are all together just sucks. Itâs like theyâre doing their best to make you invisible.
Eventually, youâll get tired of people who blame everything on you. Youâll see how they donât make you grow and how they donât add value to your life.
Youâre not even aware of what they are doing to your self-esteem. Itâs like the more you feel good, the more people need to find whatâs wrong and say it out loud. What you fail to realize is the fact that they have nothing else to offer you. They throw shade at you all the time because thatâs all they have in them.
They use you as their punching bag to dispose of their insecurities. Thatâs the only way they can do it. They want you to be successful, but they donât want you to surpass them. Youâre only good to them until you are not better than them. Once youâve outgrown them, you are representing everything they wish to be, but canât.
They want to be as funny as you are or they want to be funny at your expenseâlaughing at your insecurities. They want to have the things you have in life and all thatâs good, but once they see thatâs too much of an effort, they switch to diminishing the values of those things. Itâs a bit sad, isnât it?
If you donât believe in yourself, nobody else will. Their words and their intentions will affect you only as much as you allow them to. What they are sending towards you is a gift that you donât have to keep. Instead, you could thank them and leave their words hanging in the air. Whenever they say something that might make you feel bad, do respond with: âThank you for your âgiftââbut I think you should keep it.â
Make a mental note of their faults and list them in your head. Thatâll give those people the places in your life which they deserve. It will be your way of reminding yourself how they are not perfect either. Â Donât go down to their levels. Donât be a shitty person as they are, insulting out loud, because if you do, youâll make somebody feel as same as you do. Now that you know how it feels, you probably donât want anybody to feel the same.
As said in the beginningâyou have two kinds of people in life: the ones who tear you down and the ones who build you up. Thank them both.