5 signs that your relationship is over. It’s time to let go!
Of course, everything you had together is gone, but can you imagine being alone again? This is so scary…
Breakups happen, and this fact is inherent in all relationships. Sometimes a breakup comes like a bolt from the blue, and sometimes it’s like watching a train approaching and realizing that you won’t be able to get out of the way in time.
But not all relationships end with a loud and dramatic climax. Sometimes the end has already come and no one noticed. Your relationship exists like a zombie, it is useless and there is no life or love in it. And your hopes and dreams quietly turn to despair.
Sometimes there is a vague feeling that something is wrong because you both try your best to maintain the relationship, but it still doesn’t work out. Naturally, it is difficult to pull the trigger, to stop this torment, even if you know that this is about to happen. However, there comes a time when everyone must realize that the relationship is dead and there is no therapy that can bring it back.
5 signs your relationship is over.
Nothing is ever resolved
Of course, not all conflicts in relationships look like fights. Sometimes these conflicts are a lack of progress, where no matter what you do, nothing changes.
You can discuss something until you’re blue in the face, fight and scream. Heck, you can prove your point with arguments and facts. But whether you are calm, rational, energetic, or emotional, it doesn’t matter. In the end, everything will remain exactly as it is because your partner does not need these changes. He doesn’t even want to move a meter.
Of course, the worst times are when your partner agrees with you that things need to change. He does what you ask and says the right words, and for a moment you feel like you may have achieved a breakthrough. But then reality comes back. When those promised changes never come.
Now you’re stuck in yet another discussion, and unable to handle the emotional experience, you decide to just give up. What’s the point of this fight?
Think about why this is happening. Maybe he just doesn’t care about changing things. It doesn’t matter to him and it will be better for both of you to sort this out quickly.
There is no trust between you and nothing is forgiven
One of the hardest things to accept in a relationship is that no one is perfect and people make mistakes. Sometimes it can be sheer trifles, or, on the contrary, an act that can cancel out everything.
Error correction only works when it is done bi-directionally. One works to undo the damage he caused, and the other must work to accept that apology. He must try to restore trust and find the strength to forgive.
Saying that you forgive someone or that you are forgiven is good, but words don’t mean anything if you don’t feel forgiven. It’s one thing when the wounds are still fresh. It’s another matter when there have been good-faith attempts to repair the damage and move on, but you or your partner simply cannot or will not accept it.
Refusal to forgive is a means of revenge or control. In this case, you will simply be constantly held hostage to the relationship, and constantly reminded and reproached for what happened.
You’re on the brink of war
No couple, no matter how perfect they are or how in love they are, can avoid fighting. There is always a possibility of conflict between two different people.
But there are occasional flashes and the calm before the storm. When your relationship has turned into an endless chain of arguments, resentments, and all-out battles. Then you look at the relationship as an item that has expired.
Going from fight to fight is a sure sign that something has gone wrong at the core of your relationship and neither of you is dealing with it. Maybe you don’t want to admit that you were wrong.
It is worth noting that fighting is not just about raising voices and saying harsh words. Just because you don’t yell doesn’t mean you’re avoiding an argument. Cold contempt, lewd comments, or old-fashioned ignoring of your partner are just as emotionally damaging forms of conflict as outright arguing or fighting. This is emotional abuse and it breaks hearts and souls the only way to heal is to stop trying to blame or take over your partner. It’s better to just leave. The relationship is over.
You don’t communicate
Communication is vital to the success of a relationship. After all, your partner can’t just predict your wants and needs. Expecting this is a recipe for disappointment.
We tend to mistakenly think that communication can somehow be replaced. However, in practice, it doesn’t matter whether you can coexist in friendly silence or chat like an extroverted couple, as long as you can clearly express your needs to each other.
