Relationship Advice: 10 Signs Your Man Is Destroying You
A woman is created from a man’s rib. Not from his legs to be humiliated. Not from his head to be superior… But from his rib to be side by side with him. From under his arm to be protected. And from the side of his heart to be loved. The modern world has become perverted, and psychological violence from a man is perceived, if not from a position of normality, then silently. And yet this is the deepest delusion that can befall a woman.
It stands side by side with the unfair but popular myths that “there are no real men left” and “no one will love me.” They are what fuel the third myth: “If he beats you, it means he loves you.” So, what signals that your relationship is destroying you?
1. Prohibitions on meeting friends
If a man forbids you to communicate with your girlfriends and the circle of people you knew before you met him, he wants to see you as his property. Therefore, he tries in every way to limit other people’s influence on you. A man does not want to understand that, in addition to the personal, you have other fronts—family, friends, colleagues.
2. Insults
You must understand that any derogatory nicknames, even if they are positioned as humor, are intended to hurt and offend. If you are indignant, the man will most likely try to justify himself. In this case, he will accuse you of heightened perception and touchiness and will try to convince you that many things should be looked at more simply. Intuitively, you will understand that you do not deserve such treatment. But such treatment must be stopped.
3. Blame for his failures
You should be wary if a man systematically blames you for his own problems. Throwing tantrums is not the best behavior for a man. This is how a man tries to prove that he is not guilty of anything and tries to shift the responsibility onto you.
4. Alcohol and drugs
Alcohol and drugs are frequent companions of violent men. As a result, you get not just a tyrant but an animal—uncontrollable, rude, and devoid of a human face.
5. Fear
A man should make you feel safe and secure, not afraid. Even if it seems to you that “it seems to you,” it is not so. Intuition is strong even in downtrodden and frightened women. If a man tries to humiliate or intimidate you, then it is better to end such a relationship. And the sooner, the better.
6. Punishment for time “without him”
This behavior is typical of men, who also forbid women to meet other people. If you leave for a meeting for several hours and do it without your partner’s consent, then punishment follows. Most likely, a man in such a situation will start shouting and insulting you, threatening that he will use more effective methods, including physical force
7. Slave
A man prone to psychological violence is sure that he is a unique person. As a consequence of his own exceptionality, a demand for obedience from you is born. The stone wall rule does not work here. She is also higher. But she is surrounded with protection and care. And if the obedience of a slave is required from you, then this is already going too far, and a strong one.
8. Morbid jealousy
Jealousy, by the way, is not a sign of love either. It is a beacon of ownership. When you are jealous of everything that moves—acquaintances, friends, fantasies, a favorite actor—then it smells of total control and a clinic.
9. Controlling a woman with her own emotions
In other words, your man is a manipulator, and a talented one at that. For example, if you disagree with him, he will demonstratively take offense and threaten to break up. To punish you. He will constantly make you feel guilty in an attempt to defend his own position.
10. Physical violence
This is probably the worst thing that can happen in a relationship. If a man shows aggression, then over time it develops into beatings. And, actually, if he can humiliate you with words, then what prevents him from raising his hand to you? In such a situation, you should not expect a miracle; you should not expect him to improve for the sake of the children. He has no moral leverage; otherwise, this would simply not have happened. A man who allowed himself to raise his hand to a woman can hardly be called a man.
