Relationship Advice: There Is Such A Type Of Men – Who Never Cheat On Their Woman!

There is such a type of man who never cheats on their woman! I have never understood such an attitude of many men towards their other half.

There is such a type of man—never cheating on their woman! I NEVER CHEATED ON MY WIFE

Recently, we had friends visiting us—a married couple. After dinner, as usual, I began to help my wife clear the table and started washing the dishes. This is a routine thing for our family. I can’t say that I am the only one in the house who washes the dishes, but I don’t see anything special or out of the ordinary in this. In my opinion, helping your woman is a man’s first duty. Watching my actions, my friend’s wife, not without envy in her voice, said to her husband, “Look, Lyokha helps Sveta, and you can’t even clear your plate at home!” To which the husband replied:

“Then why do I need you?” I immediately had a counter question:  “And why does she need you? She can download a Tamagotchi that needs to be cleaned up and fed onto her phone.”

I have never understood the attitude of many men towards their other half. Why do you think that household chores are only a woman’s responsibility? And what is a man’s responsibility then? Hammering a nail into the wall? But wait, you don’t hammer a nail into the wall every day, but household chores need to be done daily. Why should all this fall on fragile women’s shoulders? When I began to tell these arguments to a friend, he was indignant: “Our grandfathers lived like this since time immemorial: women look after the household, and men work! Before, women had more responsibilities: both the house and the cattle; they carried water from the well and cooked in the stoves. And now they have all the conveniences at home: automatic washing machines, irons with steamers, multicookers, and dishwashers; they don’t need to do anything at all, so she can wash the dishes herself, and I get tired at work.”

I agree that it wasn’t easy for our grandmothers and modern women are greatly helped by household appliances. But now women also work on an equal basis with men (I’m not talking about “dolls with eyes” whose calling is to be an accessory for rich sugar daddies). In our family, it’s like this: we come home from work, I help my wife cook dinner and clean up, then we relax together. I believe that my woman is not obliged to stand alone all evening at the stove and sink, to look after the child alone, and then fall off her feet tired.

I want to see a beautiful wife next to me who is not exhausted by household chores. And this is, first of all, my concern. If I do not help her, then she will not have the strength and time for herself and me, respectively. Otherwise, what kind of man and protector am I if I cannot help my beloved?

A friend once confessed to having a girlfriend.

“Why???” I was surprised. To which my friend replied, “Yes, I’m tired of my wife. I’m bored with her; she’s always in the kitchen, always unhappy with something, endlessly fusses over the child, doesn’t take care of herself, always has a headache, we have sex once a month, and even then it’s primitive. Marinka has changed since the wedding… Here’s my new one—a beauty, always well-groomed; sex is simply magical. We spend a lot of time together; I find it interesting with her.”

I asked, “So what now? Are you going to get a divorce from Marina?” My friend was genuinely surprised: “Of course not! Why? Marinka doesn’t suspect anything. My house is clean and always cooked; what else do I need? Marinka is for the house, and Lenochka is for the soul and body.”

I felt so disgusted and unpleasant… It became even more disgusting when I realized that many of my friends felt the same way. What kind of consumer attitude towards women is this? How is that possible? While I was young and beautiful, I was needed, and now I can look for a new one. And let my wife continue to wash and iron my clothes? This is so low! After all, we are not animals! Family is a huge and hard work for two! Only together can we build a strong and friendly family. And if you put all the worries on a woman, she will simply not have time for anything else.

My dear friends, it is not your wives that have changed; it is your attitude towards them that has changed. While you were dating before the wedding, you gave them flowers and gifts, complimented them, and went on dates. And what do you do after the wedding? You come home in the evening, wait for your wife to cook dinner, and then sit down at the computer or TV. On weekends, you go to see friends without your wife. Isn’t that right? And all this time she is busy cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, and looking after the children. Where will she get the strength and, most importantly, the desire to get herself in order and smile at you, like before, when you met?

I honestly admit (although I’m sure many men won’t believe me) that I’ve never cheated on my wife. And I’m not going to; I don’t need it. Why waste time on trifles? Deceive? Why risk what you’ve built together for many years? And I don’t need another; my wife is more than enough for me; she’s my friend, my lover, and my wife. I think if you love a woman, you don’t need another. And if you don’t love her, then be a man—honestly admit it to her—and go wherever you want. But if before the wedding you fell in love with a kind and polished girl, and after the wedding, she became a bore, then it’s YOU who is primarily to blame for this!

When was the last time you gave your beloved flowers? Just like that, for no reason. When was the last time you asked her out on a date? Men, a woman needs to be conquered and won over ALWAYS! All your life! After the wedding, she is still the same woman that YOU chose once, and she deserves the same treatment as before when she married you. And if you think that after a stamp in the passport, a wife should single-handedly carry the whole household, look after you, raise children, and at the same time smile at you just as sweetly when you are lying on the couch and reproaching her for dirty dishes, then you are very much mistaken. You should not have gotten married but simply hired a housekeeper.

My Svetlana and I have been married for 15 years. We already have a grown-up 13-year-old daughter. We always do everything together. I won’t hide the fact that during this time there have been many quarrels and reconciliations. This is not important; what is important is how you behave during a quarrel. It is stupid to hope that your wife will be grateful to you for the fact that you will humiliate and insult her during scandals.

Before the wedding, you both lived in different families with different traditions and rules, and the fact that you have different views on something is natural. The fact that your wife has her own opinion and thinks differently than you does not mean that she is a “stupid woman and does not understand anything.” Now you are one, and you need to work together on your new family and create your own rules and traditions.

I still invite Sveta on dates. You can’t even imagine how nice it is to wait for your beloved in the park with a bouquet! Guessing what she will wear today, whether she will like the flowers, whether we will go to a cafe or a movie today, or maybe just take a walk along the embankment. And here she comes, the most beautiful, with an easy gait in a flowing dress, coming to meet me, MY BELOVED WIFE!

My wife has also changed a lot since the wedding; she has become even more beautiful, even more tender and affectionate, and even more caring and loving. For me, she is the only one: the best wife and the best mother! Every day she opens up to me more and more. I never cease to be amazed by her rich inner world. And after 15 years, she is the cheerful and mischievous girl I once fell in love with.

I don’t really like it when my wife proudly tells her friends, “My husband is the best husband in the world!” Because I don’t think that I do anything special for her; I just love her very much, and I help and protect her. Every man should do this for his woman; then the woman will give her love and care to the man three times as much.

The most wonderful time was when Sveta and I were waiting for our daughter to be born. I think it is a magical period in the life of every family! When your wife is carrying your baby under her heart and you have the opportunity to watch him grow every day, touch her growing belly, and feel how the baby starts to kick, you already understand when he sleeps, what his mood is, what he likes, and what he doesn’t. This is an indescribable joy, and words cannot describe it; you need to feel it.

“Stupid, fat cow”—I  often hear from men about their pregnant wives. I don’t understand how anyone can bring themselves to say such a thing. Your chosen one is carrying YOUR common child. And she is not fat and stupid; she is pregnant! Don’t you understand how hard this is for the woman herself? She is already very worried about the child; complexes arise about the growing belly because a woman always wants to be attractive. And from you, instead of support and understanding, she hears “stupid and fat.”. In this case, you are stupid, and, unfortunately, you will not get away with it.

In a pregnant woman, all processes in the body are aimed at preserving your baby, and it is natural when she begins to behave in a way she did not behave before being capricious, crying or laughing for no reason, not understanding some, as it seems to you, elementary things.

This is simple physiology. And if you show due patience and respect towards your woman, then, as a result, you will soon see your HEALTHY baby and your HAPPY and GRATEFUL wife. There is no one more beautiful and fine than a pregnant woman.

Sveta had a very difficult pregnancy; she had terrible toxicosis and constant whims. When she woke me up at night and said that she wanted bananas, I got ready and went to the 24-hour store and bought bananas, apples, pineapples, strawberries, herring, and something else. Because I understood perfectly well that after returning from the store, my wife might want something other than bananas.

And strangely enough, I found her capricious behavior very funny. We laughed together when she hid (not on purpose, of course) the TV remote control in the refrigerator, accidentally put bread in the closet with things, or said that we were going to go right, showed the direction to the left, and ended up going straight.

I supported her as much as I could, gave her even more compliments, gave her even more flowers, constantly encouraged her that they (she and our future daughter) were the most beautiful, and told her how much I loved them. And, strangely enough, Sveta got better day by day. Even her doctor was very surprised, and Sveta proudly said, “Our dad just loves us very much.”

Men, think a thousand times before you say anything to your pregnant wife. You can’t know how she will react to your words. And you will never forgive yourself if, God forbid, something happens to YOUR child because of YOUR fault. Be more tolerant!

The next stage of our family life was the birth of our daughter. I don’t understand men who yell at their wives because they can’t calm the child down. You are the same father as she is a mother—just calm her down! The baby should feel the care and love of both parents, and the wife should know that she has a loving husband next to her. Then no one will have any problems. On maternity leave, a woman has much more to worry about, and she needs YOUR help more than ever!

I am sure that in the future our family will be even stronger and more friendly. It is not difficult; the main thing is to love your other half and give yourself completely; work on the relationship from year to year.

And then the day will come when I, as an elderly grandfather, will wait in the park for my Svetochka with a bouquet. And she will come up to me, as always beautiful, with a light gait and in a flowing dress, kiss me, hug me tightly, and quietly whisper in my ear, “I love you,” and I will answer, “And I love you very much.” We will hold hands and go to a cafe or a movie, or maybe just walk along the embankment.