Relationship Advice: If Your Man Does These 6 Things, He’s Not In Love With You — He’s Obsessed

If Your Man Does These 6 Things, He’s Not In Love With You—He’s Obsessed. Love should be healthy in every sense of the word ☝  😲. And that can be dangerous. Because we’re talking about cases where psychological disorders are confused with love.
 The problem starts when your feelings drown out the voice of reason. When you listen to what your heart says, not what your mind screams. For example:

• you ignore warning signs that tell you something is wrong
• you find excuses for his bad behavior (“he’s tired, overworked, sick”)
• you convince yourself that you just misunderstood him

As a result, you may find yourself a victim of what is known as emotional abuse. And if you don’t recognize the signs, things can end very badly.

In this article, we will focus on emotional abuse by obsessive lovers. Here is an example.

Kate and Jack were inseparable after their first date. They spent a lot of time together, and after a couple of months, she moved in with him. When they were apart, he constantly wrote to her, left voice messages, wrote compliments, and showered her with attention.

At first, it was nice, but then it became too much. Jack would show up unexpectedly at Kate’s work, at her friend’s party. When they weren’t spending time together, Jack would bombard her with texts and calls. “Just to see how things were going.” Even if he already knew the answers, he would still ask where she was going and who she was with.

Jack was also jealous of Kate’s friends and colleagues, always finding a reason to find fault. He would get angry and offended when she met with friends and calmed down only when she canceled her plans for him. At the beginning of the relationship, Jack seemed patient and understanding of Kate’s sometimes unpredictable work.

But then everything changed. He demanded more time together from her. He constantly complained that he was lonely without her. He even started getting angry and demanded that she change her job.

Kate, for her part, was increasingly distant from her friends and family. She spent more time at home with Jack, and although she enjoyed that, she felt trapped.

When she finally decided she had enough and needed to break up with him, Jack said he couldn’t live without her and threatened to commit suicide.

Here are 6 signs that someone is not in love with you but rather unhealthily obsessed:

1. He showers you with constant and intense attention.
2. He demands an unrealistic amount of time together.

3. He ignores other aspects of his life for you.
4. He is jealous of any person or activity that takes up your attention.

5. He stalks you and checks in on you when you’re not together.
6. He ignores your physical personal space to show others that you belong to him.

Obsessive love starts with intense emotions, attention, and flattery and slowly turns into an unhealthy obsession with you. If you take away this obsession, underneath you will see an insecure person who defines his self-worth by your relationship, your attention, and your devotion.

Maybe it’s a consequence of his past relationships. He thinks that if he can control you, he won’t lose you like he lost someone in the past.