Relationship Advice: 10 Things That Are Just as Destructive to Relationships as Cheating In 2025

Relationship Advice: 10 Things That Are Just as Destructive to Relationships as Cheating In 2025

It is generally accepted that the worst thing that can happen in a relationship is cheating. I also believe that cheating is betrayal because it is a conscious step. The choice of a person who went to look for something on the side. But I am also sure that there are things that are no less poisonous to relationships. And if adultery can be compared to the strong and fast-acting poison curare, then, you must agree, potassium cyanide or, say, strychnine are no worse. Both are equally deadly. So, in what case can we say that you are killing the relationship?

10 Things That Are Just as Destructive to Relationships as Cheating

1. If you hide grievances

Constantly concealed grievances are no less destructive to relationships than betrayal.  You know, when grievances are expressed openly and, if possible, immediately, all the destructive consequences have already occurred! He or she was offended in response, got upset, or had a fight. But this is not scary—they will make peace, laugh, and find a consensus in the end. Much more terrible is a secret grievance. It undermines relationships slowly and imperceptibly. So, there is a great chance that one day you will wake up and understand—next to you is a complete stranger.

2. If you lie and hide things

Even if you call it a white lie and try not to hurt someone’s feelings, secrecy snowballs into a huge problem and can undermine mutual trust to the point that the only way out is to break up.

Any person who wants to find happiness in a relationship needs to learn to tell their lover almost everything.

3. If you hold back your feelings

Imagine the situation: for some reason, he or she does not want to openly show their love. They know that they love, and that is enough for them. Or they are afraid to seem too intrusive so as not to be left with nothing. As a result, emotional coldness gives rise to reticence, which, in turn, becomes the cause of destructive doubts and insecurity in the relationship.

4. If you lack communication

Communication does not mean bombarding each other with text messages, calls, or letters, but if you can’t sit down and talk about what’s bothering you or can’t have a normal conversation with your loved one at all, know that one day it will all “breakthrough” and then no sewage truck will help!

5. If you are stubborn

Following your principles is commendable, and in some situations, we are really required to have our own way. It is bad when it develops into goatish stubbornness and an inability to compromise. People who can normally exist only when everything goes according to their scenario are in fact in a relationship only with themselves.

6. If you quarrel over household chores

At first, arguments about who takes out the trash may not seem so threatening, but over the years they become an unhealing wound on the family’s body.

7. If you are lenient

But not in the sense of being patient and tolerant, but rather condescending from somewhere above to your other half , consciously or unconsciously trying to assert yourself at the expense of this person. Sometimes this is expressed in, you know, allowing yourself to be loved; sometimes you simply increase your own self-esteem by humiliating. If so, then you have a sick relationship that urgently needs to be treated.

8. If you are manipulative

Usually, the manipulator works so subtly that it is extremely difficult to recognize the fruits of his labor. Usually, everything is revealed and presented in the most unpleasant light when it is already too late. There are many options: manipulation of guilt, manipulation of self-doubt (Who needs you, so fat/thin/stupid/smart/old! ), manipulation of hope, flattery, and pity. You never know what!

The victims need to run away from their tormentors as quickly as possible, but the manipulators themselves should think about whether they want a relationship of obligation or happiness.

9. If you are jealous

Even if there is no betrayal and there can’t be, and all this is just suspicion, believe me, with such an attitude you are making one hole after another in your common boat.

10. If you are together because you depend on each other

Neither you nor your partner want to be alone. You are used to each other, so what is stopping you from sailing in the same boat? In fact, this is a clinic. You do not have a relationship; there is only a fear of loneliness. Two autophobes will never make each other happy on this basis alone. Do you need it?