No Response Is A Response (And It’s A Powerful One)
How many times have you checked your phone while you were waiting for that one person to respond?
How many times have you looked someone in the eye and waited for their response, only to realize that it was nothing but a waste of time?
How many text messages have you resent in the hopes that this time they will answer? One text, two texts… still no response.
How many times have you re-asked the same questions without getting a single word, letter, or explanation?
I bet too many times.
Too many times have you thought that not getting a response meant you’ve done something wrong.
That you perhaps haven’t been clear enough, that you asked too much, or that you haven’t thought about how they really feel about the matter.
Too many times have you blamed yourself for not knowing how to ask the right questions to get the right answers.
But, the truth is that it wasn’t your fault. You were asking the right questions, and all you got in return was no response.
Or was it so? Perhaps they were answering you all this time, but you simply didn’t listen or couldn’t see it.
Perhaps they were giving you clues that told you how they really feel, but you didn’t want to believe it.
You didn’t want to listen to your gut telling you that all this time you had all the answers right in front of you.
Because no response is a response, and it’s a powerful one!
Just because you haven’t received a text or heard a word from them, this doesn’t mean that you haven’t been sent the message.
Lack of response is a powerful response that tells you a lot about a person’s life, their perspective on things, and their intention.
Every time a person refuses to utter a single word or write a single letter, they send you a message that they’re not willing to make you a part of their life, not willing to reciprocate, and don’t give a damn how you feel about it.
Every time a person refuses to utter a word or write a letter, they deliberately decided to let you wait in case they change their mind and realize that they should’ve answered you while they could.
Every time a person refuses to respond, they decide to keep all of the unsaid words for themselves because they’re not willing to share their thoughts with you.
And being unwilling to share your thoughts with someone means being unwilling to make them a part of your life.
But, you couldn’t know that when you were looking the person in the eye, or when you were holding your phone filled with hope and excitement that you’ll get a response.
When you thought that you should wait just a little longer or give them another chance because there must be a reason why they haven’t responded yet.
You didn’t know that with saying nothing, they are actually saying a lot. All you could hear was that little voice in your head reminding you of that one sentence: “I miss you.”
All you could do was hope that they’d realize their mistake and finally open their eyes to see what you were trying to tell them all this time.
But, they didn’t. Instead, they said and wrote nothing.
And responding nothing means lack of interest and lack of will in the first place. Indeed, silence is the best response.
Because silence speaks a thousand words!
Silence tells us what words cannot. Just like a picture, silence speaks a thousand words – all we need to do is listen to it.
Instead of looking for visible answers, you need to learn to listen to the sound of silence!
Silence means that they’re cowards who didn’t want to hurt your feelings by saying what they really wanted to say!
If there’s one thing I’ve learned during my humble life, it’s this: Honesty is an expensive gift that you cannot expect from cheap people.
Being honest means sharing important things with the person you care (or don’t care) about. It means having the dignity to say what you really mean and spare the person of unnecessary overthinking and drama.
Them deciding to stay silent instead of being a responder tells you that they don’t have the guts to say what they really want to stay.
The reason why they choose to do so is because they don’t want to hurt your feelings, but in reality they are hurting you ten times more by not saying anything.
And, at the same time, they are telling you ten times more by not saying anything.
Instead of carrying on calling and texting them, expecting voicemails, or social media stalking them and their recent posts, you just need to enjoy the sound of silence and, I assure you, you will learn a lot from it.
Silence means ignoring!
Whenever someone decides not to respond, they deliberately decide to ignore. While you might feel like they’re ignoring you, in reality they’re ignoring the truth that they are cowards.
In reality, they’re telling you that you’re not worthy of their time and that’s why they don’t bother responding.
Silence means ignoring and ignoring means playing with someone else’s mental health, physical health, and happiness. And no one in the world deserves to feel that way.
No one deserves for their well-being to be influenced by another’s decision to respond.
No response is a response. No response lets you know that they’re not willing to make you their priority or tell you what’s really going on in their life.
And instead of blindly looking for excuses that will justify a no-responder‘s behavior, you just need to create a spam folder and name it: People who are not worthy of being in my life
Silence means that they aren’t interested in making you their priority!
A lot of times, I witnessed people believing that if they try harder, they might catch the other person’s attention and somehow magically win their heart and make them respond – make them reciprocate.
They think: “They don’t text me back because I’m not good enough. I need to try harder.”
But, this is not true at all. Them not responding means only one thing and that is them not being interested in making you their priority.
Their silence doesn’t imply that there’s something wrong with you. It indicates that it’s not the right time, they don’t feel attraction toward you, or they simply aren’t interested for some reason.
And this reason is not you. No response doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve attention and you’re not worthy of other people’s time.
No response means that they don’t deserve your attention because they’re not appreciating it enough.
So, instead of waiting or blaming yourself, listen to the sound of silence telling you that it’s time to move on and give up on fighting for something that simply wasn’t meant to be.
Instead of thinking there’s something wrong with you, you need to gather courage and think about what you really deserve.
Do you think you deserve a person who is not ready or not willing to make you their priority?
Do you think you deserve to suffer because you don’t deserve better?
Think again. And listen to the sound of silence again.
Because you deserve greatness and beyond. You waiting on them to respond is the ultimate sign of your patience, generosity and big heart. And you sure as hell deserve the same in return.
You deserve someone who will be able to notice all these things and be ready to make an effort to respond. To remind you that they’re thinking of you even when they’re in the middle of a hurricane.
You deserve someone who will appreciate your patience, sacrifice, and all the little things you do because you care. A lot. And you deserve to be taken care of in return.
Silence is the absence of investment and reciprocity!
Silence is a potential killer of every relationship and friendship. It’s when you look your partner in the eyes and tell them how you feel, expecting the same thing in return, but all you get is no response.
All you get is that torturing silence reminding you of all joyous moments you had or could have.
Silence is the absence of investment and reciprocity.
It takes only a few seconds to tell the other person how you really feel and what’s really going on, so when you can’t find time to do it, you’re clearly taking them for granted.
You’re deliberately deciding to invest your time in other things that mean more to you than this person’s feelings.
No response is a response. By not responding, they are sending you a message that they’re not willing to invest in your relationship nor reciprocate.
Their silence is sending you a message that you should run for your life and never look back!
It’s hard to maintain a relationship when you’re the only one trying, talking, and texting. It’s hard to be there for someone who isn’t even trying to be there for you.
And that’s why you shouldn’t do it either. Instead of waiting for something to change, you should be the change.
You should initiate the change by deciding to open your eyes and realizing that you don’t deserve a “No response” treatment.
Silence means putting another person on hold until a more convenient time!
Deciding not to respond translates to deciding to put the other person on hold until a more convenient time comes! Reasons why someone would want to put you on hold vary.
Perhaps they’re married, perhaps they’re in a relationship, perhaps they want to widen their horizons (if you catch my drift) and that’s why they’re putting you on hold.
They’re putting you on hold because they don’t want or need you at the moment, but they’re not ready to lose you either.
They want to make sure that you’ll be there waiting on them when they decide to come back, that you’ll be there when they decide to finally respond.
But, you shouldn’t. If you care about your happiness at all, you should rely on what they’re telling you with their silence instead of their potential words.
What they’re telling you with their silence is that they don’t really care about how you feel and only see you as their option instead of a priority. They let you wait just because they know you will.
They put you on hold just because they know you will be there when it’s convenient for them.
And the worst thing you could do in that situation is to wait and hope that something will change. Because it won’t!
The longer you’re you’re letting them play with your feelings and take you for granted, the longer you’ll feel miserable and unhappy!
The longer you wait for them to respond, the more you prolong your pain!
The longer you accept their toxic treatment, the more they’ll be hurting you.
So, open your eyes and see the message that’s been right in front of you all this time, but for some reason you avoided it, didn’t want to accept it, didn’t want to move on.
Open your eyes and see that no response is indeed a response, and it’s a powerful one!