Sometimes we lose our self because we worry too much about a person who doesn’t deserve it. We accept everything they say, we wait for them to show up, we cry our self to sleep. We lose the essence of our being because we are afraid they will abandon us.
The fear of being abandoned is the most powerful force in the universe. It forces us to do things we would never think of doing or to say things we never imagined saying.
We lose ourself while waiting for their approval of us. We change ourself only to appease their wishes and ego.
Why do we do it?
Why do we keep doing things to win their approval and attention when we know they are not the right person for us? Why do we keep believing them when we know they’ve been lying to us this whole time? Why don’t we want to see the truth that they are not afraid of losing us?
If they are not afraid of losing you, they will not be afraid of hurting you.
Never hold on to someone who is not afraid to hurt you. They will do anything to prove to you differently but you have to believe that if they are not afraid of losing you, they will never be afraid of hurting you.
And that is why they will never change. They will play the same game until one of you gets tired. And once you get tired and demand that they change the game, they will leave. They will leave because they are not afraid of losing you. And when they leave, do not ever give them a second chance because they don’t deserve it.
Never stop smiling just because someone made you cry.
Do not give them the satisfaction of watching you cry about something they did to you. Your smile is worthy and you are worthy. Never stop showing your smile to the world just because one person did not know how to appreciate it.
Wipe away your tears, stand up and smile. Never lose the will to smile and enjoy the small things in life because you deserve to be happy. And don’t let them tell you differently.
Never lose yourself for someone who doesn’t deserve you.
You know who you are and don’t let them change what you think about yourself and how you perceive the world. Never go out of your way to show your affection to someone who doesn’t deserve it.
Don’t let them make you feel bad about yourself for something you didn’t even do. Don’t shower them with your pure love if they are not capable of giving the same in return.
Don’t accept their poisonous love.
Don’t accept their fake love and affection when you know you’re not happy. Don’t let them fool you into thinking that you need them in order to feel good about yourself. You don’t need them. You never did.
The only thing you need is to let go of those who are giving you a poisonous kind of love. You need to let go of those who are okay with losing you. And you need to accept only the most beautiful things in the world because you deserve them.
You need to open your heart to the future.
You need to leave your past behind you and start a new chapter of your book called life. You need to find yourself again and forgive yourself for everything that happened to you. You need to know that it is okay to make mistakes. Mistakes are here to make us wiser in the future.
Never lose yourself while holding on to someone who’s okay with losing you.
Love yourself and accept only those who will fight hard to keep you in their life. Accept only those who will restore your faith in love and who will see your true beauty and embrace your pure heart.
