Why love alone is not enough In 2025
Last year I witnessed many breakups. These were partings that neither I nor the couples themselves had anticipated. But they all had one thing in common: they still loved each other very much, but, surprisingly, this was not enough to save the relationship.
I once championed the notion that love transcends all obstacles and can resolve even the most challenging relationships. However, I came to understand that love by itself is insufficient. Love serves as the basis for building relationships, but it doesn’t serve as their fuel.
You can love someone who is not right for you.
You can truly love someone, but they still won’t be the one for you. You may be either too similar or too different to the point that you simply cannot come to a common decision. You are either too stubborn to admit it or even more stubborn to end the relationship. After all, when you love someone who isn’t right for you, the relationship becomes like a tug of war: you pull and pull until someone lets go and you fall apart.
You can love someone, but it’s not time yet.
You can sacrifice everything for the relationship, but one of you may not be ready for the next step. And another may get worn out of waiting for the next step. One may receive a serious promotion at work and devote himself to this at this point in his life. Another may long for family and children.
You can love someone, but your parents may stand in your way.
Although the calendar says 2016 and our generation is more independent, parents still have their influence. You may love each other, but if someone’s parents strongly oppose you, the relationship may fail. One way or another, the pressure and tension will be felt.
You can love someone you can’t get along with.
You can love each other, but you fight 100 times a day. You may love someone, but he is constantly working. Alternatively, he is occupied with constant phone calls. He refrains from expressing his emotions. Or he changes his mind like gloves. You may think love can endure anything, but she may not. Sometimes you get worn out of putting up with what you can’t live with. Love becomes hard work that you can’t do anymore, no matter how much you like it.
You can love someone who makes you love yourself less.
It is paradoxical, ironic, and a little sadistic that someone can love you so much that you stop loving yourself. Love is a drug, and when it becomes less, you begin to feel withdrawal symptoms, anger, and anxiety. You become inferior, not self-sufficient. You don’t believe in yourself without him.
Love thrives when it coexists with respect, humility, compatibility, and commitment. Relationships founded solely on love are doomed to failure, as love cannot endure eternal bliss.