This is why a man starts to distance himself when you want him the most. This is the main difference between a man and a woman in a relationship:
Many girls have been in this situation. You meet a guy, and you feel like there is a spark between you. You exchange numbers, flirty messages, and finally go on a date… and everything is awesome! There is clearly a connection between you; you are having fun. You meet again, and everything is great again.
You start to get curious. What if this is it? Maybe your date a few more times, but then something changes. Or you notice that he’s become distant, less interested, or just disappears. You’re in complete shock: what’s going on? Here’s why a man starts to distance himself
What went wrong? This is why this situation is so confusing for most girls. This is why a man starts to distance himself.
When a girl loses interest in a guy after a few dates, she can usually give a reason. Maybe he’s not smart enough, or too greedy, too boring, or too abrupt—she usually knows exactly what turned her off and can explain why she doesn’t want to continue dating him if he asks.
But it’s not like that with guys. A guy can go on a few great dates with a girl and then suddenly realize he doesn’t want to date her anymore. Even if he spent the whole day texting her and wanted to see her, now he has no desire to date her at all.
And this can be as confusing for guys as it is for girls. If you ask, many guys will say that they don’t know why they suddenly backed down…just like that.
So why is this happening? Is there no reason, or is it a provocation? No, there is a reason. But it is so difficult to understand and formulate because it is so subtle.
During your first dates with a new guy, you are usually relaxed and as simple as possible. You are just testing the waters, learning about his possibilities and potential, and getting to know him. Everything starts off easy and fun; you just chat and enjoy each other’s company.
But after a few great dates with a seemingly nice guy, most women, even without realizing it, start to get too caught up in the possibilities. They think about how the relationship might develop and become consumed with fantasies about the future.
When this happens, you are no longer in the here and now; you are not perceiving the situation as it is. Instead, your mind is focused on what could be, and that is what becomes the problem.
You get attached to this imaginary future and unconsciously start putting pressure on the guy, afraid of losing what you have thought up (although you have nothing yet). And then your fears and insecurities appear, and the guy sees it.
You begin to interact with the thoughts in your head rather than the person in front of you. Instead of trying to figure out who he is, you look at his behavior and words, wondering what they say about his feelings for you, assessing how close or far you are from a made-up future together.
Most guys have an intuitive sense when a woman perceives them as an object rather than a person when she uses him as a means to fill the void inside herself.
Guys don’t do that and don’t understand what suddenly changed a cheerful and interesting girl into an emotionally tense and insecure person.
They no longer feel like; they feel like they are trying to get some benefit from them. And then their instinct tells them to run.
This is the main difference between a man and a woman in a relationship. Men are more engrossed in the present moment and perceive the situation as it is, while women are always looking for ways to improve the relationship and move it to a new stage.
The point is to enjoy life and not need a relationship. You should not look for a relationship, not a status, but a person. And when you find one, let everything go its way. I hope now you understand why a man begins to distance himself.
