Love Advice: Not Everyday Life: 3 Things That Destroy Marriage In 2025
Not everyday life: 3 things that destroy a marriage. The same phrase, “The boat crashed into everyday life,” is pronounced by a man and a woman with completely different feelings. The woman regrets it; the man, as a rule, does not.
“Everyday life has poisoned our relationship.” This is what men often say, justifying their departure from their wives and children to their young mistress. Monotonous sex, lack of cleanliness in the house, tasteless food.
There are many reasons for reproach. Marriage is destroyed for three reasons: betrayal, lies, and cruelty. When a man writes off his unwillingness to come home to everyday life, he is being hypocritical.
3 things that destroy marriage:
Things should be called by their proper names. The husband ignores his fatherly duties—betrayal. He does not want to cook and keep clean, calling it “women’s work”—a” lie.
Refusing to support his wife in moments of depression is cruelty. If a husband and wife act and live truly together, all their affairs are joint victories and defeats. All sorrows and joys become common.
I categorically insist on calling everything by its proper name:
If a husband does not fulfill his parental responsibilities, then this is betrayal.
if a husband says that he “cannot do women’s things,” then this is a lie.
If he does not sympathize with his wife in a difficult situation, in depression, for example, then this is cruelty.
When I hear the phrase “a boat crashed into everyday life” from a woman, I hear a feeling of guilt.
When I hear this phrase from a man, I hear cruelty and heartlessness. I explained it to my husband at the time: when two comrades are riding together in a tank, fighting and surviving in the most difficult conditions, then no one can be bored.
If each of them gives their all, then it is a test, a labor, and, in the end, a joint victory.
And if one of these comrades snorts that it is uncomfortable for him to sleep in a tank, it is noisy and generally says, “I catch myself thinking that I don’t want to return to the tank in the evenings,” then he is not a comrade!
The husband laughed at first, but then it dawned on him…
And I stood and watched how his face and gaze changed. How does it come to an adult from another planet that on my planet it is a common thing, understandable to every woman?
And I was very bitter. No, it is not “everyday life” and broken boats that destroy a marriage. It is lies, betrayal, and cruelty that destroy a marriage.
