Love Advice: 4 Rules Relationships Rule Four “No’s”
4 Rules of Relationships Or the Rule of Four “NO’s.”. Are there any rules for a happy relationship? Of course, and I want to tell you about them. These rules will help you make your relationship harmonious and happy. Rules that will strengthen your relationship. 4 Rules of Relationships:
Do not criticize
Not at all, not at all, never, and under no circumstances. Reprimands do not inspire. They clip wings, suppress initiative, and extinguish the fire of energy and desire. When making a reprimand, you take the position of a parent, and from this position, it is impossible to inspire in principle. Because a critical parent always addresses a disobedient child.
If you don’t want to turn your man into a stubborn or helpless child, don’t judge. You can create and desire only in the state of a natural child’s “I”. A natural child is spontaneous and unlimited in thoughts and possibilities. Criticism narrows thinking and slows down development. Even constructive! And in general, making comments is not your job; let everyone in the relationship system do their own thing: the boss points out mistakes, and the wife inspires. You don’t want it to be the other way around, do you?
Do not comment
How does this differ from the previous setup? Have you ever had a husband fix a socket or switch and ask you to hold a flashlight or tools, and you, purely out of a noble desire to help, seeing that he can’t do it, start asking questions, putting forward ideas and assumptions?
Happens? Don’t do that again. Never! Such comments differ from criticism only in the form of delivery. But the semantic load is the same: you doubt his abilities, knowledge, skills, and talents—in him.
Don’t shout
This is not even up for discussion; it is an axiom that you just need to accept. Not just not to shout in the presence of other people, but not to shout at all. Anything you want to convey can be said calmly; this way there is a much greater chance of being heard. Well, and I think it is not worth reminding that by shouting, you become like a teacher or a hysterical woman, in general, like anyone, but not like a woman who inspires to feats.
Not to control
This task is more difficult for many women than all the previous ones combined! Your seemingly innocent question, as if, by the way, “Where are you?” is a test. And not even a veiled one.
I believe that you do not control your spouse, and that is not what you meant at all; he just has to be at work, and there is a noisy road in the background, and you just asked. I believe it because I deceive myself. But in reality, it is control.
Why is it so important for me to know where exactly my husband is right now if he said he would be at work? Maybe he is going somewhere on a work assignment? Is there a lack of trust hidden behind this control?
Have you ever noticed how the women of men who make their fortunes illegally behave?
That’s right, they don’t interfere. They appreciate them for the kind of man he is towards them. And how he makes money is his business. And, usually, they are much happier than women who interfere in the affairs of their lovers and throw tantrums like “How could you…”.
I am not calling on you to push your husband into scams or frauds and accept this, but I am simply calling on you to moderate your supervision and trust your loved one.
By following the above conditions, you will be able to create a truly happy and harmonious relationship in which you will energize and inspire your husband. If you violate the rule of four “no’s,” all your efforts will come to naught.
Because it is impossible to ignite energy by criticizing, commenting, shouting, and checking. Well, certainly not for great achievements.
I know firsthand how difficult it is to follow these guidelines. That’s why I’ll share the secrets that help me, and I hope they’ll be useful to you, too.
