Love is not complicated. When you really love someone, it comes to you naturally to show your feelings and fight for them no matter what.
It comes to you naturally to make them your priority because you canโt imagine your life without them.
But, when you donโt love someone, you do the exact opposite. You treat them however you want because you donโt care how theyโll feel.
You let them wait because you donโt care about their time.
So, letโs get one thing straight:ย If he really loved you, he would make damn sure you knew it!
Yup. Itโs that simple. If he really loved you, he would never make you question his intentions in the first place or make you overthink even the smallest of things.
If he really loved you, he would not just say it โ he would prove it to you.
And thatโs the biggest difference between real and fake love.
When you love someone, you donโt wait a second to tell them how much you appreciate their existence and everything they do for you.
When you love someone, you donโt wait a second to show it to them with your gestures and not only words.
If he really loved you, he would fight hard not to lose you.
When you believe in something, you fight with all of your heart and soul to achieve it.
If he really loved you, he would find a way to make you feel special and win you over. And he would find a way to keep you.
So, donโt you dare imagine things or finding excuses for his behavior, thinking that youโre the one to blame! You were there for him, but he didnโt want to see it or appreciate it. He wasnโt ready for love because he was incapable of loving. He never loved you.
And you were not in love with him either. You were in love with the idea of him.
You hoped that he will change, and he will start noticing your efforts, but he didnโt.
You hoped that one day youโll wake up, and he will be there next to you, holding a flower in his hand, waiting to put it in your hair.
But, he never did that! And do you know why? Because he never loved you.
I know itโs hard to accept, but itโs the only way toย break freeย from the limbo youโre in.
You waited for him to show you what true love is, but instead, he was only capable of showing you what love is not.
And itโs not your fault for believing that something will change. You did the right thing. You waited, but he never came to his senses. You were there, but he never bothered reciprocating. He was feasting on your pure love while giving you crumbs of his toxic one.
And now itโs time to let go of it! Itโs time to let go of the idea that he ever loved you or that he would ever be capable of it because he isnโt, and heโll never be.
And do you know why?
Because he doesnโt understand how it feels to love someone and watch them spit in your face.
He doesnโt understand how it feels to treat someone as your priority when you know that to them, youโre just an option.
If he really loved you, he would understand all of that and beyond. If he reallyย loved you, he would never make you cry or make you curse the day you met him.
If he really loved you, he would make damn sure to knock on your door and wait hours if needed, only to say that heโs sorry for everything heโs done and express his utter love for you.
But, he didnโt do it. He didnโt do it because he didnโt care whether youโre feeling loved or not. He was only thinking about himself and his wishes. And now it is time for you to think about yourself!
Itโs time for you to start focusing on your own happiness and not only on the happiness of those who didnโt deserve your attention.
Itโs time for you to accept the fact that he was never meant to stay because he was simply incapable of loving you, and all of this was just a test for you, preparing you for something bigger, greater.
Your bad choices donโt make you who you are! They enrich your life and teach you valuable lessons, but they never make you who you are.
You are a beautiful, strong woman who has gone through a lot and who deserves far better treatment than the one you were settling for.
You were settling for less even though you deserve the moon and the stars.
You were accepting lies even though you deserve the pure truth.
You gave him your heart even though you knew he would eventually break it.
And now itโs time to do everything in reverse. Itโs time to stop dwelling upon your past because nothing will ever change.
Your life will only change when you decide it will.
It will change when you start accepting only the most beautiful things in life.
It will change when you start accepting the love that inspires you instead of the mediocre one. Start changing it. Be the change!
