Have you ever put your life on hold for a guy who couldn’t make up his mind about you? Have you ever waited for someone who didn’t have the decency to choose you?
Have you ever put your life on hold for a guy to get his shit together and to change his ways? Have you ever waited for someone who never came and who was actually never worthy of the wait?
If you have, you know that it is one of the worst choices you could ever make. If you have, you know that this is not something you should ever do again because it will get you nowhere.
Because if you are a strong woman, you won’t waste days, months or years of your life patiently waiting around for someone to become the man you deserve. If you are a strong woman, you won’t spend years stuck in one place, waiting for something that will never happen and for someone who will never come.
If you are a strong woman, you’ll move on the second you see that the man you care about isn’t worthy of you. The second you see that someone doesn’t appreciate you or that he’ll never give you what you need, despite all the love you might feel for him.
And no, you won’t do it to make him chase you or to prove a point. You won’t do it while secretly hoping that it will prompt him to understand the depth of his love for you.
If you are a strong woman, you won’t wait for anyone because you know your worth. Because you appreciate your time, your energy and yourself too much to give a man like this any significance in your life.
So, if you know all of this, what exactly are you doing? If you know all of this, why haven’t you looked reality straight in the eyes and why didn’t you realize that it’s time for you to stop this waiting?
Why do you keep spending sleepless nights with your phone in your hand, waiting for this guy’s text or drunk late-night phone call? Why do you keep waiting for him to choose you over all those other girls in his life?
Why do you keep waiting for him to commit and to label your relationship? For him to make an effort?
For him to finally give you the place you deserve on his priority list? For him to start appreciating your efforts and the love you are giving him?
Why do you keep waiting for the guy who walked away from you when you needed him the most? For him to come crawling back and to realize what he lost? For him to understand that you’ve always been the only woman he has ever loved?
Why do you keep waiting for him to finally see your worth and for him to see that you are more than enough? For him to finally give you back the love you deserve?
Why do you keep waiting to get crumbs of his affection and attention, when you know you deserve much more? Why do you keep hoping that things will be different, when you know very well they will remain the same as long as you allow for them to be the same?
Why do you keep putting your life on hold while he is out there enjoying every second of his? Why do you allow yourself to be stuck in one place, while this man moves forward and lives his life the way he pleases?
Why do you keep holding on, when you know very well that it’s time for you to let go? Why do you keep staying around someone you need to walk away from?
I know that this is something you refuse to accept but the truth is that you are only caging yourself. Without even realizing it, you’ve become a prisoner of your hope and a prisoner of waiting.
You don’t see it now but the truth is that you are not living—you are just surviving. The truth is that you are letting your life slip away right in front of your eyes and you are not doing anything to catch it.
And that is not something a strong woman does.
