5 signs that you don’t have a husband, even if you’re married. Unfortunately, this happens all the time… 😞 😢 😢. When the most wonderful husband in the world is waiting for you at home, life seems completely different.
You know what it means to be a wife. But that doesn’t mean your husband understands what it means to be a husband. So how can you tell if he does or not? Here are 5 signs you don’t really have a husband, even if you’re married:
1. He doesn’t care about what you want or need.
He doesn’t care about your wants and needs. He doesn’t know what you want from life, from love, and he doesn’t even try to find out. Maybe you even tell him directly what you want from him, but he rarely does.
And he certainly doesn’t try to find out your hidden needs that you don’t talk about. Such a husband will never be able to satisfy your needs because he simply doesn’t know about them and doesn’t want to know.
2. He doesn’t do anything special for you.
You don’t have a real husband if he doesn’t do anything special for you. And it’s not just a lack of effort to make you feel loved—it’s a lack of internal motivation to show affection for you.
If he doesn’t feel obligated to do something nice for you, something meaningful to you, then he simply doesn’t value you. He doesn’t care how you feel, so there are no romantic gestures—big or small.
3. He doesn’t communicate with you.
He doesn’t tell you where he’s going or when he’ll be back. He doesn’t discuss important decisions with you. He doesn’t answer your texts or phone calls. If he shamelessly ignores you, he’s not your husband.
4. He expects you to obey him.
You don’t have a real husband if he expects you to do everything he wants. He expects you to cook, clean, and take care of him, serve him, and satisfy all his needs and desires. He thinks you shouldn’t have your own opinions, desires, or independence at all.
He treats marriage like a business, cutting costs and increasing profits. And you act like a benefactor, giving everything selflessly and receiving nothing in return. As if he is the employer and you are the employee.
5. He doesn’t treat you as an equal.
He doesn’t understand his role as a husband if he doesn’t treat you as an equal, as someone he shares his life with. In his mind, you are not partners; you are a wife, and he considers you beneath him. He expects submission.
Maybe he sincerely believes that men are better than women; that’s why he behaves this way. Or maybe he just thinks that he is better than you. In any case, this is not the thinking of a real husband.
