Have you ever been so fed up with disappointments, humiliations, false promises, toxic relationships, ghostings, devastating breakups, mind games, and finally, heartaches?
Have you ever reached a breaking point and saw no other way out but to give up on love altogether?
Youโve been trying your best to find the love of your life for so long but without any success.
So, after all those failed attempts, you started believing that youโreย not meant to be loved.
To put it simply: You decided it was about time to start acting heartless.
If this is something you can relate to, Iโm here to ask you to reconsider your decision.
Actually, Iโm here to remind you of a few things you shouldnโt forget if you think that shutting your heart off is the thing to do.
1. Heโs not worthy
Letโs be honest. Youโre disappointed in love thanks to a certain douchebag who broke your heart and tore you to pieces. So, wasnโt that more than enough?
Havenโt you given this guy enough importance? Hasnโt he impacted your life enough?
Well, how can you even think of giving him any more attention? Do you really think that he deserves any more of your time?
You see, if you decide to deprive yourself from the possibility of ever finding love, it will be a sign that he won.
It means that he mattered so much to you that he managed to change the essence of your personality and reshape your entire life.
And no matter how much you cared for this man, heโs not worthy of all of this. At least not after everything heโs put you through.
In fact, the only way for you to defeat him and overcome everything he did to you is to show both of you that youโre capable of moving on with your life, as if nothing happened.
Itโs to show him that just because he broke your heart, it doesnโt mean he broke you.
2. Youโll be sorry
Another thing you need to keep in mind is that youโll regret your decision of shutting down your heart forever.
Even though at this moment youโre probably convinced that this is the best decision you can make, trust me: After a while, youโll actually start seeing it as the worst mistake of your life.
Whether you believe me or not, love is beautiful and itโs a pity to consciously kick it out of your life forever, especially because of some jerk.
Donโt get me wrong. Thereโs nothing wrong with ending up alone, if things happen that way. In this case scenario, you wouldnโt have anyone to blame but destiny.
However, if you make this choice, youโre going to be the only one responsible for your numbness, lack of emotions, and all other negative consequences shutting your heart off will bring you.
I assure you that once you get old, youโll be sorry for not playing your cards differently and for not at least giving love a shot.
3. It wonโt protect youโฆ
The only reason you made the choice of shutting down your emotions for good is because you think itโs the only way to protect yourself.
You managed to convince yourself that you have no other option but to stop letting everyone in as a precautionary measure.
After many failures, you concluded that you obviously have bad judgment skills and donโt know how to choose right.
Therefore, you decided toย give up on loveย altogether to save yourself from unnecessary headache and heartache, and to stop giving others a chance to keep on hurting you.
However, I have to disappoint you and tell you that this wonโt protect you.
You canย act heartlessย as much as you want, but that doesnโt mean that you donโt have a heart that beats on its own.
Despite all your attempts, you canโt control your destiny and you never know whatโll happen next.
Therefore, all of your efforts will be pointless and if itโs meant to be, someone will hurt you again.
โฆbut it will change you
However, the worst part is that trying to do all of this will change you forever.
You wonโt only lose the ability to love the way you used to โ which, that alone, is sad enough โ youโll also lose your kindness, optimism, and happiness overall.
Thereโs nothing wrong in building and updating yourself over time.
Nevertheless, this has to happen on your own terms and when you want it to, not as a consequence of someone elseโs actions and behavior towards you.
4. It will deprive you of happiness
You see, you canโt decide on what kind of emotions you want to stop feeling.
Yes, life would be perfect if it offered the possibility of choosing to feel only joy and other good emotions, and to turn off sadness, anger, resentment, and all other negativity.
On the contrary, even if you succeed in this mission of shutting your heart down, it will kill all emotions you have, including the ones you donโt want to get rid of and would rather keep.
It will make you completely indifferent and numb.
It will make it impossible for you to open up to those who deserve it, have honest relationships, and fall in love ever again. The worst part is that itโll deprive you from happiness.
On the other hand, if you keep putting yourself out there โ I wonโt lie to you โ thereโs a chance of your heart being broken once more.
But, thereโs also a chance of you ending up happier than youโve ever been.And I assure you that this is a risk worth taking.
5. Other people arenโt to blame
The thing many forget is that other people from their future shouldnโt suffer for the actions of those from their past.
What Iโm trying to say is: thereโs no point in you punishing the men youโre yet to meet and expect the worst from them, just because some douchebag didnโt treat you right.
Remember that not everyone isย like your ex. There are plenty of other men out there who are the opposite of him, whoโd give you what you want and deserve.
So, do you really want this nice guy to suffer the consequences of your past traumas that he has nothing to do with.
6. Love will come to you
Even though you probably donโt believe me now, Iโm begging you not to give up because love will come knocking on your door.
Even though itโs the last thing on your mind at this point, I assure you that it will appear when you least expect it.
So do you really want to welcome it with your heart closed? Do you want it to find you resentful and bitter?
I bet not!
