You’ve all heard about Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde–two sides of one coin and two parts of one character, where one is evil and the other is good.
However, how can you tell if your boyfriend has this personality disorder?
What are the warning signs that you’re stuck in a toxic Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type of personality?
1. You feel like you’re dating multiple people
The main sign that you’re dealing with a man who is both Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde lies in the fact that for most of the time, you feel like you’re actually dating two completely different men who have very little in common.
Even though this might sound exciting at first, with time, it starts to cause you more headaches than happiness.
The man you love has two opposite sides, and you never know which side will be more dominant at any given moment.
You feel like you have to get to know both of these guys in order to form a real picture regarding his character, but the catch is that they’re so different that rarely anything connects them.
At first, these multiple personalities are not a big deal.
You assume that your partner had a bad day which caused him to react in a way completely unlike him or you even blame yourself for waking up a monster in this perfect man.
However, with time you see that you’re not imagining things.
You see that your man has a kind of a spiritual evil twin and that you’re stuck with the entire package.
So, you learn how to walk on eggshells. You teach yourself how to recognize what personality is present from the very beginning, so you don’t end up doing something wrong.
2. You never know what to expect
What will happen when you two meet for drinks tonight?
Will your boyfriend be the loving and caring nice guy you have feelings for or will he turn into a monster and an abuser?
Will you two spend a night full of laughter and joy or will you end up coming home crying? Will he be gentle or rough under the sheets?
And what about tomorrow? Will you get a sweet good morning text or will he simply choose to ignore you for the day?
Well, the truth is that you don’t have a clue because you never know what to expect from this guy.
Let’s be honest–this uncertainty, the drama, and the turmoil probably attracted you to him in the first place because life next to him is everything but boring.
However, after a while, you have become completely exhausted and tired of having a relationship in which you never know where you stand.
3. You have trouble identifying your own feelings
The worst part about being in a relationship with a man who has Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality lies in the fact that most of the time, you can’t even get to the bottom of your own feelings, let alone his.
There are the days when you literally despise him and can’t even look at his face.
Days when you hate his guts and can’t stand his presence in your life.
Days when you can’t believe that you’ve gotten yourself in a romantic relationship with a douchebag like this, and days when you just want out.
However, there are also the days when you love this man more than anything in the world.
Days when you see him as your forever person, a soulmate, and days when you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
So, you can’t help but wonder who is crazy here? Is it normal for you to have all of this emotional turmoil?
Well, let me tell you that these are perfectly natural emotions when it comes to a man like this.
You simply love the good parts of his personality, and you hate the evil ones.
4. You hold on to the good times
The logical question arising from all of this is why anyone would choose to remain in this toxic relationship.
Well, the truth is that you’re doing it because you’re holding on to the good times and beautiful memories.
You keep telling yourself that this man’s toxic personality is not who he really is, and you keep remembering all those moments in which he behaved like the best boyfriend in the world and treated you like a Princess.
You hold on to the parts of him you like and love, lying to yourself that everything else is nothing but an ugly phase which will go away.
Well, let me tell you that it is not.
This is who this guy is–a mixture of two completely opposite characters, and if you don’t leave him aside right away, you’ll spend the rest of your days miserable.