If you’re looking for signs of guilt from your potentially cheating husband, you’re in just the right place!
Cheating is one of the most frequent destructive behaviors of married couples and it’s really easy to miss all the red flags and warning signs that have literally been in front of you the entire time.
And social media has just made it easier for all the cheaters (read cheating spouses) out there to perfect their cheating game.
So, given that you’re here looking for signs of guilt from your possibly cheating husband, I assume you’ve already imagined all the worst case scenarios in your head.
I suppose you’ve already imagined the process of grief and horrible pain of realizing that you’ve been cheated by your loved one and now you’re here to finally face the real truth.
Now, I’ll be completely honest with you.
If you already have that gut feeling telling you that your husband is cheating on you and have noticed a sudden change in his behavior, chances are your husband really is a cheater!
But, sometimes – and I really mean sometimes – our feelings can be deceiving, forcing us to imagine things and assume the worst.
Perhaps your significant other is just going through a phase or has some problems that he simply doesn’t want to share with anyone.
Perhaps he has just locked himself in a “man cave” and needs some time to process his feelings and whatever he’s going through.
Now you’re probably wondering how the hell then you’re supposed to know what really is going on here. Well, one thing is sure!
Every cheating husband tends to exhibit signs of guilt at some point in a marriage (if he has a soul, of course), so the easiest way to find out what’s really up is by paying close attention to your husband’s behavior.
If you notice any of the following signs of guilty conscience from him, it might be time to have a serious conversation with your spouse because chances are that he’s a cheater in disguise!
1. He’s acting weird or distant
The biggest sign of guilt from a cheating husband is a drastic change in his behavior – constantly acting weird or distant.
It’s because cheating partners have this tendency to cover up their sinful deeds and guilty conscience by avoiding eye contact, constantly being sad around you “for no reason,” and the like.
All of these signs are proof of him feeling guilty about straying elsewhere (if you know what I mean).
Him ignoring you and acting weird are part of his defense mechanism strategy – to avoid reality, admitting “the crime,” and dealing with the problem.
2. He (suddenly) showers you with compliments and gifts
Another common sign of a cheating husband‘s guilt is him suddenly showering you with extra attention, tons of compliments, and expensive gifts.
The only reason why he might be doing this out of the blue is because he feels guilty for doing things behind your back.
He feels remorse for hiding the new relationship from his significant other – you.
And now his conscience is forcing him to make it up to you by being more attentive, never missing a day to tell you how beautiful you are, and going wild with his credit card.
Guilty people feel an internal pressure to treat their victims right, even though they know they’ve been acting like douchebags in secret. Strange, right?
3. He comes back home smelling fresh as a daisy after a “long day at work”
If your husband comes back home smelling fresh as a daisy, yet you know for a fact that he’s worked all day and after that kept sweating in a subway toward home, it’s a telltale sign that something’s really fishy.
Perhaps he decided to take a shower with his fellow coworker after some time they spent in a hotel because of “too much work” that couldn’t be delayed for another day.
If he constantly prolongs time spent at his work by making excuses like he won’t make it because they have so much to finish and deadliness are killing them, chances are he’s having an affair.
Also, that’s a perfect excuse for being unable to answer your phone calls.
4. He’s overly jealous and accuses you of cheating
When someone has a guilty conscience, they have this urge to accuse others of the same crimes.
So, one of the biggest signs of cheating husband‘s guilt is him accusing you of cheating on him, even though he’s the one only one being unfaithful in the first place.
The most frequent reason why people cheat is because of their low self-esteem and the need to feel more worthy, which is a perfect explanation of his jealous and insecure behavior.
And when you combine this with the feeling of guilt, there you have it – a recipe for lunacy, where he’s desperately trying to convince himself of something that is completely untrue.
5. He’s constantly complaining about your habits or appearance
Constantly complaining about your habits and appearance is another sign that he’s seeing someone else and involved in a physical or emotional affair.
By doing this, he’s trying to make you feel guilty for his selfish choices and using your “flaws” to justify his infidelity.
So, if you notice that he all of a sudden has serious problems with your words or actions, beware – he might be doing it just because he’s looking for vindication for his cheating nature.
6. He’s suddenly obsessed with the gym
If you know that he’s never been the gym type of man – that whenever you tried to motivate him to be more active in the past, he would simply choose to ignore you – yet now he’s suddenly obsessed with the gym, this could be because of the following reasons:
- a) He has really changed and started living a healthy life.
- b) He is cheating on you and wants to look the best he can for his new partner
- c) He’s cheating on you and because of that, he has the need to “sweat the guilt” in the gym
If you know for a fact that the first reason is likely impossible to be true because you know your husband to the core, then there you have it.
7. He gives you more attention on social media
He likes your every post, comments how beautiful you are on every selfie, follows your every move on social media, and doesn’t seem to cease.
And when you go back to the past, you can’t remember the last time he liked anything on your profile, let alone left you a comment.
If this is happening to you, chances are your husband is feeling guilty for cheating on you and that’s the only reason why he suddenly gives you more attention on social media.
He wants to make it up to you and make himself feel better about what he’s doing behind your back. (Lame, I know.)
8. He’s overly protective of his cell phone
Does your husband hide his cell phone like it’s something utterly confidential and you have no right to know what’s going on in his life?
Does he accuse you of overreacting every time you demand he tells what’s going on and why he keeps being so protective of his cell phone?
If yes, your husband is probably involved in the cheating business and that’s why he can’t let you near his personal belongings, because he wouldn’t survive if you finally caught him in the act.
He wouldn’t be able to handle you knowing what he’s been doing behind your back all this time because he feels irreversibly guilty about it.
9. He’s often unreachable and avoids spending time with you
If your husband is unreachable from time to time and always has a valid excuse for it, you shouldn’t really worry about it.
But, if he constantly refuses to answer your phone calls and most of the time you have no idea where he really is, he might be hiding things from you and that’s why he avoids spending time with you.
Every cheater is a master at hiding their real whereabouts because they have to have a strong alibi that will perfectly cover their infidelity.
And every cheater also knows that turning off their cell phone and being unreachable is one of the easiest ways to avoid questions about their whereabouts and worrying about a perfect cover when they’re “in the middle of the action.”
10. He suddenly stops saying I love you
When was the last time your husband expressed his love for you by saying those three words, I love you?
If you can’t remember the exact time, then it’s probably been a while since the last time he actually said it.
You see, this is one of the biggest signs of guilt from a cheating husband because cheaters usually stop saying those three words when they feel extreme guilt for doing things behind your back.
If they said it, it would sound really wrong because their initial feelings for you are now scattered all over the place and they literally have no idea what they’re doing.
11. There’s a sudden change in your s++ life
Sudden change may include more S++ than usual or no S++ at all.
If your husband has a sudden thirst for making love with you and simply can’t get enough of it, it may be because another woman has awakened his passion.
Or perhaps he feels extremely guilty for what he’s doing to you and he’s trying to make it up to you in bed.
If this is the case with him, also pay attention to whether he’s suggesting new hot positions and other things that you haven’t done before – he’s probably doing it because he learned it elsewhere.
Also, if you can’t remember the last time you made love, chances are he’s never initiating it because he’s already doing it with someone else.
12. He starts to pick up unhealthy behaviors
When we’re feeling guilty about doing something, it’s likely that we’ll start looking for pacifiers and something to help us cope with the feeling of confusion and guilty conscience.
So, if your husband has never been a fan of smoking, drinking, or consuming drugs, and now he’s doing it, the trigger for his unhealthy behavior could be guilt caused by him cheating on you.
He probably hopes that this new unhealthy habit will help him get through all of this without feeling much remorse, but in the end, we all collapse when we face the real truth and its consequences.
13. He threatens to end the relationship
This often happens during a fight, so pay close attention to whether he ever says it when you’re having a disagreement.
If he threatens to end the relationship, he probably can’t stand his guilty conscience any longer, but it could also mean that he’s not afraid of you leaving him because he now has a replacement for you.
In most cases, it is a mix of both: being unable to stay in the current relationship because of guilt-ridden feelings, as well as feeling encouraged to end the relationship because he’s already safe – he already has someone else.
So, if your husband has never suggested ending the relationship until now, you might want to have a serious conversation with him and ask him what exactly is going on.
If the majority of the signs above ring true and you’re suspecting your husband is having an affair, please don’t do anything stupid or jump to conclusions yet before having a serious talk with him.
I know it’s hard to stay sane in the situation you’re in.
It’s hard to prevent yourself from not bursting into tears. But instead of doing all of that, it’s better to speak to your husband – tell him everything that’s on your heart and demand answers for his suspicious behavior.
Remember that whatever the outcome, you gain!
If he tells you that he is feeling off lately but has never cheated on you and apologizes to you for even making you think that, you’ll save yourself the agony of uncertainty and find a way to work things out.
If he admits that he’s been cheating on you, you will save yourself from wasting another second on someone who is unworthy of being with you.
And, remember, it’s all in the eyes! Pay attention to his body language, the way he’s expressing himself, and especially his eyes – they tell more than words could ever say!