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12 Sure-fire Signs He Doesn’t Care About You (Move On)

Every single girl in the world would like to be loved and cherished by the man of her dreams, but sometimes the most beautiful dreams turn into the worst nightmares. There was a time when your man once loved you the most. Now he doesn’t give a damn about you and shows that in the worst possible ways. Maybe things change, people change, and that’s why we are not the same as before. We are not driven by the same things anymore, and we don’t like the things we used to like in the past.

It’s the same with our partners—you can love someone like crazy at one time, but things can change after a couple of years. If you think that you are experiencing a situation like this and if you’re looking for signs he doesn’t care about you anymore, you’ve come to the right place because this is where you’ll get the brutal truth which you need to look straight in the eye.

1. He doesn’t spend time with you

If you feel that your man is getting all distant and that he doesn’t want to spend time with you like before, it is one of the first signs he doesn’t care about you. When we love someone, we want to spend most of our time with them, and there is a valid reason why your man doesn’t want to be with you anymore.

Don’t get me wrong—I’m not saying that the two of you shouldn’t be allowed to have lives of your own outside your relationship or that this man has a duty to leave everything and everyone behind just because he’s your boyfriend. Nevertheless, if you see that spending time with you and being near you is boring to him and that he avoids it, you definitely have a problem, and it is one of the clear signs he doesn’t care about you.

Maybe he got tired of you or he found another partner he is having fun with. Maybe someone else gives him all that he wants, and that’s why he doesn’t care about you anymore.

What you should know is that even if this is the case, he shouldn’t treat the woman who has been living with him for such a long time like that. If he has stopped loving you, he should have the balls to admit that.


2. You feel like you have to chase him

Another one of the signs he doesn’t care about you is the fact that sometimes you feel like you have to beg him to be with you even though he denies this to be true when you confront him about it. However, deep down, you can’t help but feel that you’re losing him, no matter how hard you try to prevent that from happening.

And you know what the worst thing is? The more you are trying to chase him, the faster he will run.

It looks like your man doesn’t want to be with you anymore and that he just doesn’t have enough courage to say that. He is acting hot and cold, and you don’t know what to think about him.

Please, just remember one thing: If you really have to chase him, he is probably not worthy of it. What is the point of chasing someone who doesn’t want to be with you?

You will just end up in tears, and he will never want to be only yours. So, if it is already destined for you to leave him, do that as soon as you can. In that way, you will suffer less.

Have in mind that you never have to beg the one who is meant to be yours. Instead of going after him, try letting him go, and see whether he’ll make an effort to stay in your life or not.


3. Everything is your fault

Whenever the two of you fight, your partner somehow blames you for everything. Even if things are not your fault, he will always defend himself and blame you to make himself feel better.

This man obviously doesn’t want to take responsibility for his words and actions and that is one of the signs he doesn’t care about you and that he isn’t interested in improving your relationship. There is a possibility that he is perfectly aware of the fact that he is the one ruining your partnership but he doesn’t have the courage to take the blame so he prefers manipulating you into taking the fault.

That is not a healthy relationship, and you should talk to him seriously about that. Don’t let any man treat you like crap, and tell him that you won’t tolerate his behavior anymore.

If he refuses to change, you don’t have any other option than to leave him. A man like that doesn’t deserve a high-value woman like you.


4. He makes all the decisions

When there is a need to make an important decision, he will do all the work without even asking for your opinion. It seems like you are not smart enough to decide about the big things and that he is more capable than you.

It is more than clear that this guy doesn’t see you as an equal partner in crime and that he treats you as if you are beneath him in more than one way. He wants to be in complete control over you because that is obviously the only opportunity he gets to feel like a bigger man.

If something like this happens to you, you should know that it is a surefire sign of a toxic relationship, and you should definitely escape it as soon as you can because the last thing you need is someone putting you down and not respecting your opinion. If you stay in that kind of an environment, you will just do harm to yourself. On the other hand, if you leave a toxic partner in good time, you will have more chance to be happy with someone else.

5. He doesn’t make an effort

What is the point of being with someone who puts zero effort into making things work? If you are the only one trying, that is not a relationship anymore because it concerns only you.

When you come to think about it, lately, this has become a one-way relationship. You’re the only one doing all the work and the only one fighting for your survival while your partner is nothing more than a passive bystander who doesn’t give a rat’s ass about your relationship’s future. In fact, he acts like you leaving him is something that wouldn’t harm him in any way.

A man who stops making an effort for the woman he is with and for the relationship probably has some new plans with someone else and has clearly given up on you all together. Maybe he is not happy anymore in your relationship and maybe he doesn’t want to be with you for some reason.

Whatever the reason might be, it is not okay that he treats you like that. He should have said if he didn’t love you anymore instead of hurting you by not caring about you and by acting this indifferently. That is not what you deserve, so don’t let any man treat you like that.


6. He doesn’t listen to you

You would all probably agree with me that communication is the key to a healthy and stable relationship. That is exactly why your romantic partner refusing to listen to you is one of the warning signs he doesn’t care about you.

I won’t lie to you, even if your man loves you, there will be times when he’ll simply be too tired to talk to you about those new heels you bought or to engage in a meaningful conversation about your hairstyle. However, if you feel like your man isn’t your friend and if you’re aware that he doesn’t give a damn about anything you say, it’s pretty obvious that he’s lost interest in you and your relationship.

A man who doesn’t listen to you doesn’t respect you, and that has to change. It is not possible to have a good relationship with someone who thinks that your opinion is not worthy and who takes you for granted.

In the end, if he is a jerk who doesn’t see that you are amazing and who doesn’t listen to you, make sure you find someone who will. That will be the best revenge on him and maybe he will figure out what he lost but it will be too late.

7. He is not interested in your life

When you have a life partner, you want to share everything that happens with him. He notices all the little details about you and always makes an effort to get to know you better, despite you two being in a long-term relationship.

However, this is not how your boyfriend acts. Actually, this guy is never interested in how you spend your day. He doesn’t give a damn about your feelings, he doesn’t try to get to the bottom of the things that are bothering you, and he never makes an effort in finding out more about your fears, dreams, and hopes. He isn’t interested in meeting your friends and family, and he doesn’t have a clue about your job and hobbies.

If this is something you can relate to your relationship, it’s time for you to stop justifying this guy and accept it as one of the harsh signs he doesn’t care about you. He is with you just because it is convenient for him and he will never make you a priority. A man like this will never see that you are ahigh-quality woman, and he will never give you credit for the things you do.


8. He flirts with other women

When a guy loves you for real, you’ll be the only woman he’ll have eyes for. He can be surrounded by many other better-looking or funnier girls, but he’ll know that you’re one of a kind, and he’ll treat you accordingly.

On the other hand, when a man doesn’t care about a woman, he will want to replace her with a ‘better sample’ and he’ll never see how special she is, no matter what you do. He will do that in ways you can’t even imagine, like flirting with other girls in front of you and feeling zero remorse for that.

If you already had a situation like this, you should seriously talk to your partner and tell him that you won’t let any man treat you like that, including him. If he needs other women around him, it is one of the signs he doesn’t care about you.

Don’t comfort yourself that he’s only checking out other girls and flirting with them and that he’d never make a real move on them or cheat on you because that is far from the truth. If a man is ready to humiliate you by comparing you with another female, trust me, he wouldn’t hesitate in physically cheating on you as well. So, the best option would be to just leave him to live his life in the way he wants, and find your own way in the world.


9. He is not jealous of other guys

Possessive jealousy is never healthy. Nevertheless, when a guy loves you, there will always exist an inch of fear that he might lose you. Consequently, he will feel threatened by other guys who he thinks might take you away from him.

However, this doesn’t apply to your man who acts like he wouldn’t give a damn if he sees you with another man. Well, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but if your man is not jealous that other guys approach and flirt with you, it is one of the signs he doesn’t care about you.

Only a man who has lost all of his feelings for you would behave like this. Trust me, you don’t deserve to waste your time with someone like that.

If he is with you just because it is convenient for him, leave him proudly, and no matter how much it hurts you, don’t show him that it does. Be a woman who cares about herself when you don’t have a man who will do that for you.

10. He doesn’t make you a priority

When a man treats you like a second choice, you shouldn’t have a lot to do with him anymore. He obviously made up his mind and he doesn’t want to be with you.

The worst thing is that he shows you that in a bad way. He is not man enough to come to you and admit that he doesn’t have any romantic feelings for you anymore.

Trust me, a man like that is not hubby material. He will never give you the love and attention you deserve and you will just suffer next to him.


11. He treats you like everyone else

It is not nice when the man you love treats you like everyone else. That is just a sign that he doesn’t find you special and one of the signs he doesn’t care.

With a man like that you will never be truly happy and satisfied because you’ll always feel like you have to beg for his undivided attention and love, and that is not something strong women do. With him, something will always be missing and even if that is a small thing, for you it will mean a lot.

So, you better think twice about whether you will stay with him or you will find your happiness in another place. If you move on, at least you will have the chance to meet a man who will put you first and who will make your happiness more important than his own.

Please, respect yourself enough not to allow some douchebag to treat you like his last resort. Remember that you should never settle for a man who doesn’t have the decency to put you on the top of his priority list because that is the least you deserve.


12. He doesn’t want to have sex with you

Last but not least—one of the most obvious signs he doesn’t care about you anymore is when he actually tries to escape being intimate with you. Of course, this guy isn’t a sex machine, and there is nothing weird about the fact that he is sometimes tired or not in the mood for the bedroom activities.

However, if you’ve noticed that lately you’re always the one initiating sex while he’s the one who’s trying to avoid it, you have a problem. That is a sign that he has lost interest in you or that he might have someone else in his life.

If you find yourself in a situation like this, you should think about your next step. I am not saying that sex is the most important part of a relationship but it is definitely one of the essential parts and a healthy relationship can’t function properly without it. On the other hand, if you can’t have your partner in bed, you surely won’t have him in everyday situations.



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  1. Wtf? This seems like an elementary school aged kid wrote this, or it was [badly] translated from another language?… Not the first article I’ve seen like this, it seems that they’re becoming worse and worse lately. This was painful to read. Seems like anyone can write articles for these websites these days.

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