Guys, let’s be honest… When does a relationship become a relationship? The first date goes great, the second even better. And before we know it, you’re firmly anchored in our bed, head and heart. But then comes the big disappointment: You introduce us to someone at a party as “a good friend,” even though we were already sure that we were definitely “the friend” and had written the day we met with a heart in our calendar. So, when do we become your steady girlfriend?
Dear girls, we have to be honest: A few of us will only see you as good friends and a nice fling. But the majority of us men will feel the same as you: We are on cloud nine, and we only think about you. But we also have doubts: What if it is just a fling for you? Do you feel the same way as we do? We find it difficult to show our feelings, especially when we are not even sure whether they are reciprocated. So if we only introduce you as “a good friend” at a party, then that only shows that we are not sure what stage of our relationship we are at.
When does it become a relationship?
Doing something with someone or even sleeping with them doesn’t always mean that you’re in a relationship. If we introduce you as our girlfriend, it could be that you don’t see it that way—and leave us standing at the party like a lovesick idiot. We also often need more time to figure out what we want. A relationship is a big step, and we men just don’t want to commit ourselves so quickly and thereby make obligations.
And, as it sounds, “steady girlfriend,” as if we are now chained to you and can only look at you. Most of the time it just happens on its own. If you spend almost all your free time together for weeks, constantly talking on the phone or writing and telling each other everything, then it’s clear that it’s more than just a fling. There is no exact point in time that you pass before you are automatically together. Some people know after a few days that it’s serious, but sometimes it can take weeks before you can be sure. Just let your gut feel it; that’s what we do too.
Clear signs that it is a relationship
But of course, there are also a few clear signs that are meant to signal to you: “We want you completely!” When we introduce you to our friends and even to our family, you can be sure that we mean it. When we do things that are difficult for us to do, such as holding hands in public and cuddling intimately, then we also want to show everyone: Look, that’s my girlfriend.
The test in front of friends is one of the most important: if you make a good impression in front of your friends, they will accept you into the group and treat you like one of them. When we then introduce you to your future mother-in-law, you can feel safe: we are seriously interested in being with you.
He gives you pet names.
Do you have special nicknames for each other that only you use? This is a good sign that your relationship is getting stronger and moving on to the next stage. These don’t have to be traditional nicknames like sweetheart or bunny. We wanted to know what the current trend is.
These relationship phases await you now.
You are finally together and overjoyed? You can hardly wait to spend the next few years with your sweetheart? Then take a look at our gallery and discover what exciting phases of your relationship still await you!
