Relationship Advice: Why a man cheats on his woman and what to do about it
This material is dedicated to those men who sincerely want to be completely devoted to their woman but struggle with the temptation to “turn left.” Women, having read the above words, may be surprised: how can a “devoted” man be tempted by such things at all? As a man who has faced such problems, I will say that it is possible and that devotion and temptation are not mutually exclusive things.
There are many good men who truly want to be with the woman they have chosen, but they constantly find that they have to make an effort not to give in to their natural desires. Let me say right away that I do not define cheating as the purely physical act of having sex with someone else. To me, cheating is any thought, feeling, or behavior that is contrary to a man’s commitment to his woman.
I know, I know. The women reading this will be delighted, while the men will slap themselves in the forehead, like, how could a man blurt out such a thing? What’s wrong with looking at the whole menu but not eating it all, right?
Well, there’s nothing wrong with that, but it’s not letting a good man experience what he wants most…
True love and intimacy in a relationship with a woman he truly loves.
Men cheat on women because of the overwhelming power of sexual desire that makes them want this or that female, and no matter how hard they try to control this instinct, they cannot do it.
I know this from my own experience. Even though I never slept with women other than my wife, I still wanted them, the others. I had innocent flirtations, but they were all just “friends.” But in reality, I was deceiving myself, not realizing that such “harmless” behavior was distancing me from the woman I truly loved and from the intimacy I really wanted.
It was only when I began to look at my relationship with my woman and my devotion to her as a test that I could go through for the sake of better harmony with myself that I began to understand what it meant to love.
Choosing one woman completely, day after day, is no joke.
No matter how much a man loves his woman, if he still wants other women, he must work on himself. Only through a committed relationship can a man rebuild his sexuality so that it flows through his heart. This is the only sure way to protect yourself from betrayal, and it is the only way a man can experience true intimacy in his life.
Men, after reading these words, may think, How to do this in reality? I will tell you: every time you catch yourself thinking about another woman, get closer to yours.
Women may feel like this is more than they asked for. But you can do something to help us too—support men, be committed to them, your relationship, and yourself.
Don’t judge them, don’t punish them, and don’t blame them for looking at other women, but create a safe place in his life where he can share his feelings and get closer to you, not other women. He needs to see who he’s trying for.
