Relationship Advice: Read this if he didn’t choose you! It might make you feel better!
Read this if he didn’t choose you! It might get easier! I probably understand. He broke you. You may not have been together, but he stole a piece of your heart, making you more cynical than before. He liked you. He wanted you. Maybe even loved you. But he didn’t choose you.
Unfortunately, it’s not easy to shake the feeling of not being chosen. Day after day, you feel empty. Night after night, tears roll down your cheeks. Your mind tries to find an answer to why he chose her over you. Is she prettier? Smarter? Funnier? Slimmer? The more you search for an answer or a reason why he chose her, the less likely you are to find one. And whatever the reason, you won’t feel better; no answer will satisfy you.
It’s better to distance yourself from him; it will be easier to forget. But, unfortunately, you can’t let him go yet. You will see him sometimes. If not in person, then in your head. You will analyze every action of his on Instagram and every like on Facebook. You will reply to every message.
You will do everything to hold on to what was.
You might have to face him. And her. And them. And see them kissing, him holding her tenderly. And no matter how much pain it causes you, you won’t be able to turn away. You won’t be able to throw him out of your life.
You will pretend that it doesn’t bother you; you will look calm and collected. Over time, you will make yourself believe that you have forgotten it. You will read many articles online that say, “How to forget someone who doesn’t love you back.”.
It says you’ll be fine if you take these 10 steps. And you will:
1. Delete him from social networks.
2. Stop communicating with him and responding to his messages.
3. You realize that you are better off without him.
4. You will stop following the one he chose online.
5. Do yoga; eat right. Take care of yourself.
6. Buy a book. Read it. Don’t let your thoughts consume you.
7. Say yes to every opportunity.
8. Enjoy being alone. Flirt. Date.
9. Focus on your future.
You’ll do it and then you’ll realize that none of it works. But you’ll still hope. You’ll hope that he’ll realize his mistake—that he made the wrong choice. But no. He won’t. He won’t even think about it.
So go back to square one and repeat all 10 steps. And time will do its job. Believe it. Time will pass, and your heart will stop hurting so much, and your life will make sense again. The main thing is not that he didn’t choose you. The main thing is that you always choose yourself.
