Last letter to the man who broke me.
How are you? I hope you are doing well, and yes, I mean it. Thank you for leaving me…
Last letter to the man who broke me.
How are you? I hope you’re doing well, and yes, I mean it. This isn’t silly; there’s no sarcastic remark you might feel because of how harshly we broke up.
No, I don’t envy you in any way, not at all. I’m very happy with the direction our lives have taken. And yes, I don’t wish that we had never met or that you had never entered my life. Because, oddly enough, you’ve done more good than harm.
You have impacted my life a little more than the people I grew up with. And although it was hard to comprehend at the moment, it is true. I am grateful for all the valuable lessons I have learned in my relationship with you. And they have been better than any book I have ever read (and there have been many). So, I sincerely thank you and wish you the best.
I’m so glad you did that to me. That cruel joke you played on me. We break up, and then I come back the next day. You smiled in my face because you wanted to see my reaction when I realized you were gone. Well, it wasn’t funny to me. Making fun of someone’s dependence on you is not funny at all. But that’s what you do; you find it funny.
Now I understand how wrong it was to invest so much in this relationship. Because I was not emotionally mature enough to understand what I meant to you.
I remember very well how I cried in front of a friend. You were my friend and my beloved. And now I can only imagine what kind of sadist would do that to show what power he has in a relationship. You taught me that I would never allow myself to do that to another person. Because I was on the verge of such behavior once.
You also taught me not to fall in love with a person whose own ego is more important than his partner’s tears. It shouldn’t have surprised me as much as it did. Because you were playing with me from day one.
I remember how I suffered because you only sent me funny hints. For you, it was a game.
For a long time, I didn’t even know if I liked you or not. Although I could love you, I know you never would. You only loved yourself. So you played with my feelings until you were sure of yours. You see, I wasn’t good enough to be with you forever, but good enough to use and never want to let go? And you thought that was okay.
I have learned that no matter how much someone likes me, I will not hold on to every ambiguous word they say. Now that I have learned the importance of clarity in relationships, I will never allow another narcissist to play with my emotions like that. I will not allow someone to second guess whether I am worthy of their love. Because I deserve better!
Thank you for showing their pictures and making fun of how popular and sought-after you are with women. You made me feel insecure. And it’s good that you did. Once I realized my flaws, I was able to face them and overcome them.
Oh, and one more quick tip: stop pitting girls against each other. I realized that all those girls weren’t my rivals. They just had the misfortune of knowing you. Women shouldn’t have to spend their lives with guys like you who think we should fight each other for your attention. No thanks.
Thank you for keeping me on my toes. With you, I was constantly worrying about what I should or shouldn’t do and how you would react to everything. I didn’t realize how much pressure I was under until it all stopped.
Suddenly, I could breathe again. That’s when I realized the importance of stability. No one should feel like they’re trapped in their own life. I’ve never valued the feeling of freedom and control over my life, and maybe that’s why I was so willing to hand over the reins to you. But you made sure I learned my lesson. I’ll never do it again, because now I know the price I paid.
Thank you for doubting my dreams and teasing me for being too ambitious.
You said I was building castles in the air. I wanted too much. Well, I agree that we came from the same small town, and so our options were limited. But unlike you, I didn’t let that define me. Instead, I took it as a challenge. And while it would have meant a lot to me if you had supported me, you didn’t. And I made peace with that. I became stronger. Instead of looking to others for validation and worth, I look within myself. And I think I’ll never be disappointed.
Finally ready to love me. But that was not the case. You just wanted to control my life; you wanted everything I had to offer. My mind, body, and soul, and in return, you couldn’t even give me your commitment. I learned that I was a complete fool, wasting so much time and emotion on you when you weren’t ready to invest it.
Thank you for every time you left me alone. It taught me that the only person I need in my life to be happy is me.
Thank you for making me realize how cruel, irrational, and selfish the world can be. I am now more prepared to deal with people like you without hating them because I understand what they are going through too. And most importantly, thank you for leaving me.
I know when you did that I felt broken and abandoned, but it was the only truly good thing you did for me. When you left, I thought I couldn’t live without you. But boy was I wrong. Not only am I living without you, I’m thriving. I shudder to think what my life would be like if we were still together. I’m a stronger person now, but it’s not entirely because of you. It’s always been there, but yeah, I’m grateful to you for showing me that. You showed me what I’m capable of, and I deserve better. Goodbye.
