Relationship Advice: 5 Techniques to Make a Person Fall in Love with You!
5th point is very interesting; I haven’t heard of it before!
28% of women and 48% of men say they fall in love at first sight—according to a recent study of more than 80 thousand people in the United States. This means that 72% of women and 52% of men fall in love gradually, which means they are open to influence on them. Of course (and to our regret), there is still a certain magical factor that makes a person fall in love, but science still gives some tips on how to help this.
The following techniques are effective at the beginning of a relationship when you have just met or are starting to date. While they can’t force someone to fall in love with you against their will, it does improve your chances of success in their eyes. Isn’t it worth a shot?
1. Don’t be unavailable.
The more you interact with someone, the more they may like you. Research shows that the more a person does something, the more he likes it (the only exception is if the first reaction was negative).
So forget about being unavailable if you really like the person. He may consider you proud and indifferent, and that will be the end of it. Instead, find ways to meet more often until you’re sure he likes you, then become less approachable.
2. And then be hard to reach.
When you are sure that the person is interested, now reduce your activity. This is the principle of scarcity: people value and want more of what is in short supply or difficult to obtain.
An experiment with closing times is indicative of this, which showed that when visitors to a bar know that it will close soon, they quickly choose someone from those present to meet.
3. Don’t do nice things for him; let him do nice things for you.
When you do something nice for a person, you get two types of feelings: satisfaction with yourself (what a good person I am!) and a great craving for the person you did something nice for.
To justify our efforts, we often tend to idealize a person, thinking that he deserves it. And as a result, we like him more. But we need to achieve the opposite effect: for this person to like us. Which means we need to let him do something nice for us.
4. Look him in the eyes.
Harvard psychologist Zeke Rubin observed that deeply in love couples look at each other 75% of the time when talking and are slower to look at others who interrupt the conversation.
In a normal conversation, people look at each other 30–60% of the time. Conclusion: You can determine the degree to which people are in love by how often and for how long they look into each other’s eyes.
If you look at a person longer and more closely, it will trick his mind. After all, the last time a person with whom he was in a loving relationship looked at him like that. So the mind may decide that it likes you too and will begin to produce phenylethylamine, a chemical relative of amphetamines produced by the nervous system when we first fall in love. It is what makes your hands sweat, increases your heart rate, and gives you the feeling of butterflies in your stomach.
5. Try pupillometry.
Pupillometry is the measurement of pupil size. You will be surprised, but scientists have noticed that people with large pupils are liked more. In one experiment, men were shown photos of the same women, but with different pupil sizes. And everything was confirmed.
The pupil dilates when a person really wants something, when he is overwhelmed by passion. But how can this be achieved in simple conditions? For example, dim the light, and your pupils will dilate. Although if you really already really like a person, then your pupils will already be larger than usual.
