How to recognize a tyrant in a man: early warning signs. Physical or emotional abusers or tyrants do not show themselves immediately… Almost half of all women and even men have been subjected to physical violence in a relationship, and many did not immediately realize it.
Their abusers often seem like very nice people at first, and the abuse itself (especially emotional abuse) is not always obvious. Many people stay with their abusers for many years before they recognize their true nature. Many are led to believe that this is the way it should be or that it is all their fault.
Therefore, it is very important to know the early signs of such people—emotional and physical abusers, bullies, and tyrants.
1. He isolates you.
A tyrant will try to limit your time with your friends and family or turn you against them to gain absolute control over you.
2. He is jealous.
Abusers are often possessive. They are jealous even when you give them no reason. Their jealousy may be directed towards your imaginary lover or friends who take you away from him.
3. He is concerned about your relationship.
Sometimes, in an attempt to isolate you or appear to be a good guy, a bully will express concern about how other people treat you and whether they are a good influence on you. This behavior may seem loving or caring, but it has its benefits.
Emotional abusers can twist your complaints about them into accusations against you so that you end up asking for forgiveness, giving in to their manipulation.
5. He blames you for his behavior.
A tyrant may often justify his violence by saying that you deserved it. He is a master of manipulation and may even give seemingly logical reasons why you are to blame for his anger, cruelty, or bad behavior.
A partner who does not take responsibility for their actions cannot build a healthy relationship.
6. He checks your phone.
To have complete control over you, a tyrant and abuser can read your correspondence, log into your accounts, or even offer to create a common page.
Where to go, what to eat, who to hang out with, what to do with your life…This is not normal.
8. He criticizes you.
It’s one thing to have healthy criticism, but it’s another thing when someone puts you down for your character, appearance, or personality.
9. He makes physical threats.
Don’t take phrases like “I’ll kill you” as a fit of anger. Even if it doesn’t come to physical violence, it’s still threats and emotional abuse.
Victims of domestic violence are often afraid to do or say something wrong because they don’t know how their partner will react or when they will explode. We all deserve a relationship where we can feel safe.
