Never Do These 9 Things Right After a Breakup!
Even the most amicable breakups can be painful. Try not to go to extremes, and do not do these things right after the breakup. Believe me, they will not help.
1. No radically new haircuts or tattoos
Don’t make any drastic changes for a while, as it’s easy to make rash decisions after a breakup. Wait a couple of months until you’re emotionally on your feet again. Hair does grow back, of course, but be careful: a bad haircut can send you into an even darker depression.
2. Don’t communicate. At all.
You broke up a week ago, and you still have unspoken thoughts floating around in your head. Don’t text or call. Sure, there may be things you need to talk about. Returning things, for example. Maybe you have unresolved issues with co-tenancy or pet custody. However, resist the urge to further sort things out and fill the time with other activities. You’re feeling lost and confused not because you miss your ex, but because certain daily habits have changed. Give yourself time to adjust to a different way of life.
3. Don’t stalk your ex on social media
Social media can be dangerous in these situations. Set two hard and fast rules: don’t post anything about your personal drama, even in a veiled way, and don’t start cyber stalking your ex, spying on his actions to find out how he’s feeling and what he’s up to now.
4. Don’t remain lovers
Just ask yourself one question. Would you voice this last wish on your deathbed: “I wish I could sleep with my ex one last time”? Unlikely. Let your breakup be final.
5. Don’t beg for reconciliation
Don’t engage in moral begging. Instead of clinging to lost hope, analyze the reason why you have a hard time letting go. Besides, if your ex pushes you away again, you’ll be completely crushed.
6. Don’t take revenge
Don’t hide his car keys, don’t steal his cat, and don’t burn his clothes. And never, ever do anything illegal. Revenge only feeds hurt feelings and fuels hatred. Forgive and move on. Remember to hold your head up high and spend your energy on those who deserve it.
7. Don’t try to be friends
Very rarely can a breakup lead to friendship, and until time has passed, don’t try to “be friends” with your ex. Create a vacuum between you and take care of yourself. If your ex insists on friendship, decline such a generous offer. Why would you want a friend like that who literally broke your heart a couple of days ago?
8. Don’t get discouraged
Don’t let this situation kill your hope and start taking care of yourself. Take some time to change your direction and engage in activities that you enjoy. Socialize and make new friends. Be grateful that the toxic relationship is over to make way for healthy relationships.
9. Don’t pretend you’re okay
Let yourself cry. Beat up a pillow. Talk to your friends. And resist the temptation to put on a mask called “I’m fine.” Don’t let pride stop you from being yourself. You have the right to be angry, scared, and broken, but you shouldn’t play the superpower.
