Why do men need mistresses? Column by an experienced kept woman. An experienced woman agreed to tell us why men go to mistresses and why mistresses choose married men. The problems of modern men are… The problem of modern men is that they are all “under-loved” in the clear sense of the word. Well, or almost all. The fact that a woman quickly agrees to an intimate relationship with a man does not mean at all that she then gives the man satisfaction. Because often there is no trace of THAT in their bed. I began living an “adult” life at the age of 17. Now I am 29. I have never been married and have never worked a day in my life.
I live in the center of Kyiv in a pretty nice apartment. I have a car and the courage to admit that I am a mistress. I meet married men for S+x, and he, in return, supports me. The longest affair in my life lasted a year and a half. The shortest—two months. One day everything may change, but now I do not plan to change anything.
Men need mistresses.
Simply because they cannot stand monotony. For example. Sometimes a man wants to punch his boss in the face, but, of course, for several reasons, he can’t do it. He urgently needs to sublimate this, and he goes to sleep with me. Why with me? Because then he gets dressed, ties this stupid tie around his neck, as if tightening a noose, and mutters through his teeth how he hates this Ivan Petrovich.
And I calmly nod and answer: “Come tomorrow, I’ll cook a duck, and then I’ll make a MILF.” And he comes because he needs to relax. To feel important and buy time to figure out what to do. But my wife can’t say it like I do: she has kids and a house, her youngest son’s teacher is a fool, she’s out of powder, and her eldest daughter wants to get her young nose pierced. And if she agrees to LOVE, then only in the pose of a tired log. She doesn’t give a damn about his boss.
For her—compared to her daughter’s piercing—it’s not a problem at all. I don’t give a damn about this boss either, but I don’t give a damn differently, and I have the time and energy to pretend that it’s not so. So a man takes a mistress. And nothing personal! Just s+x.
And he goes to sleep with me. Why with me?
It so happens that women are much more egoistic than men. How can I explain this… We need everything at once, but from one man; men also need everything at once, but from different women.
In 90% of cases, I choose married men.
It’s because they value time spent with me; sometimes we only have one hour. Bachelors are spoiled in this regard; they need to be won over. You know, jumping over them with a rattle in your hands and hoping that they want to play with you.
With married people, it’s different. And in love, they, as a rule, agree to experiments with greater passion; the monotony of family life pushes them to take risks. And they are also more generous.
Family teaches them to share. It is especially good if he has children: they make a man sentimental, and he can easily take his mistress to Paris, just to drink champagne with her in an expensive hotel, from the window of which you can see the Eiffel Tower illuminated by dozens of lanterns or a luxurious view of Montmartre—once here the passion of the famous artist Modigliani flared up, and now here he seduces his mistress. What could be more pathetic and tempting? By the way, oddly enough, I have a higher education and I know who Modigliani is.
I have had many married men.
Some of them loved me more than their wives; others thought they loved me more than their wives. But most of them loved their wives more than me. And that is why I can say for sure that s+x for s+x’s sake does exist.
It’s different for every man.
Some people need to cheat twice in their entire family life, while others need to do it regularly.
It doesn’t depend on the sincerity of their feelings for their wife.
Libid@ and nothing more.
I once had a lover—the owner of a company manufacturing armored doors—an imposing, expensive man—so he loved to tell me about his wife and how he respected her. Then, due to my inexperience, I was angry: How can you respect and MAKE A MATTER with another?
It took me several years to realize that for many men, a mistress is like an expensive car in the garage. He occasionally fiddles with it, brags about it to his friends, and sometimes goes on vacation with it. But if the house suddenly burns down, he will save his wife and children first. And if it burns down, it will be the car. And he will not abandon his family for the sake of a car.
Not all men cheat. Some are afraid. Others are lazy. Others don’t want to; there are some of those too. My friends, those who know how and what I live, say that I have a man’s view of the world.
I simply call it “the world I live in.”
Am I offended that many men who date me do not love me? This is a topic for a separate post. One thing I know for sure: you cannot accept that your man has taken a mistress, but it is quite possible to understand why he did it. That’s it… what do you say, ladies?
