Love Advice: What You Should Always Remember When Entering Into A Relationship
1. Not a single person on your life path is met in vain. Every day we meet new people, and from each meeting we take something important for ourselves. Someone tests us, someone uses and teaches a lesson, someone helps to gain new skills, and someone makes us better, and this is the most valuable.
2. In relationships, you get what you give. Don’t expect to get smiles, hugs, and declarations of love in response to whims, accusations, and insults. If you want to understand, try to understand yourself. Everything comes back—this is a simple formula that works at all times.
3. Don’t fight for a place in someone’s life. You can’t force someone to like you—many forget this simple and very wise truth. Never try to win space for yourself in another person’s life. After all, you can’t know for sure whether they need it.
4. All people change, and this is normal. People’s needs, thoughts, and even beliefs change over time. So if someone says that you have changed, do not be upset and do not look for flaws in yourself. Perhaps these changes have actually benefited you. It’s perfectly acceptable for your interests to diverge with a close friend and for your communication to be ineffective. It is better to occasionally send each other greeting cards and preserve warm memories than to try to squeeze out of the relationship what is not left and accumulate irritation inside yourself. Be sincere.
5. Relationships require work. Relationships do not build themselves. They require the active participation of all parties involved. Sincerity, reciprocity, and respect are the foundations without which any relationship will collapse.
6. You need to be able to forgive. Many people think that forgiveness is a sign of weakness. But the words “I forgive you” do not mean at all—”I am too soft a person, so I can’t be offended and you can continue to ruin my life; I will not say a single word to you.” They mean, “I will not allow the past to ruin my future and present, so I forgive you and let go of all grievances.”.
7. Arguments are a waste of time. The less time you spend arguing with people who irritate you, the more time you have to spend with the people you love. Keep your composure when arguing with someone close to you. Don’t let anger take over you, or you might say something you’ll be ashamed of for the rest of your life. Sometimes a strong relationship can be ruined by one careless word.
8. You cannot change another person. A person can only change himself, but in no case anyone else. Therefore, you must learn to perceive your close and dear people as they are. If something fundamentally does not suit you, be honest and say so directly. Perhaps the one you love will want to change for you.
9. The absence of some people in your life can only benefit you. Don’t be afraid to change your environment. You need to be able to let go of those people who bring discomfort into your life. If lately you have only received betrayal and insults from your once best friend, you need to stop clinging to the past and break off the relationship.
10. Appreciate the people around you. Don’t forget to tell your loved ones how much you care about them. Give them enough attention. Your relationship may end someday, but even if something doesn’t last forever, it doesn’t mean it’s not worth spending time on.
