Love Advice: The Offensive Reason For Many Divorces. A Heart-to-heart Talk…
The offensive reason for many divorces. A heart-to-heart talk… About half of my thirty-year-old friends have already divorced. Among those over forty, 80% are like that. Often the reason for divorce is a woman. Women sigh: I even removed the hair from my bikini area with wax. And I went to the gym regularly. I am such a treasure, and he still left.
What’s the matter?! You know what? Believe me, men don’t leave because of overgrown bikini areas. And not even because of overfed figures. It’s much deeper. Come on, pour yourself some coffee, and let’s have a heart-to-heart talk.
The unfortunate reason for many divorces:
Men and women perceive home differently. For a woman, home is her element, her kingdom, where everything must be perfect. Her cross, her battle, you could say. When a woman sees something imperfect in her home, sirens go off in her head. IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!!!!!!!!!!Attack! Assassination attempt! Reduced defense capability!
Urgently throw all forces into eliminating the interference! IUIUIUIUIUIUIUI!!!!!!!!!!!! And she, like a general, makes a decision. We remember that within the confines of the house she feels like at work, or even more important. Very important and responsible.
— Private husband! To battle! Remove the cat litter box! Defeat the tree!
But she can’t say that, even though that’s what’s happening subconsciously. So she just says something like:
— What are you doing, huh? You still can’t take the tree out; the whole house is covered in needles! And the cat has crap all over your litter box!
If there is also a mother-in-law in the house who, when coming to the young couple, also subconsciously perceives the house as her own, and the wife is subordinate to her by rank, everything is even worse. The number of sirens sounding in the house—IUIUIUIUIUIUIUI!!!!!!—doubles!
And what is home for a man? Home is a cave where he can hide from life’s storms. A reliable shelter, a rear. The only source of peace. This contradiction with an inattentive, unresponsive wife can drive you crazy! You came to relax, and here this is.
Therefore, I would advise ladies to remember this difference when planning household chores. And not to be too zealous in their desire to do everything perfectly, especially with the help of their husband.
In general, I believe that a man has the right to receive the following things from his woman. They allow him to make the house what it should be for a man—a place of rest.
respect .
He must be 1000% sure that no one at home will call him a goat, a loser, or a lazy person. Not to mention the worst epithets. Never and under no circumstances should you allow yourself to disrespect your husband.
As, incidentally, you shouldn’t tolerate disrespect towards yourself. And if you allow yourself to shout something like, What an idiot, you screwed up again, you can’t do anything, you’re one foot in divorce.
silence .
Yes, a husband has the right to get a dose of silence at home. This is a space where he can unwind and take a break from the challenges of life. I understand that it is impossible to achieve the ideal.
But surely you can at least not artificially increase the amount of noise in the house? No whining mothers-in-law, no lectures, no yelling. Respect his sleep, protect his silence. When you disturb the silence with your shouts and grumbling, you are almost in a divorce with both feet.
beauty and harmony .
You will say now that this is sexism, but I believe that a husband has the right to an aesthetically pleasing wife who takes care of herself. And to a clean, cozy home. Now we will start talking about dividing household chores among a working couple. But for such an extreme case, there are cleaners who come once a week; sometimes it is easier to pay a couple hundred for cleaning and forget about it.
— energy .
Home is a kind of place to recharge his batteries. So, the house should have everything that can replenish the energy he has lost. His favorite food. The opportunity to watch a good movie. The opportunity to take a fragrant bath. A loving wife who has not lost her interest in life…
Of course, a man has his responsibilities too. But that’s a completely different story. And all that’s required of a woman is to turn her home into a place of rest, not a place of constant war! Do you think these are too many demands on a woman?
