One day you will understand that you are left alone… Parents die, husbands change, lovers cheat, and children grow up. Or you leave them because they are strangers now…
One day you will understand that you are alone. You have always been alone, but this understanding is usually late. Parents die, husbands change, lovers cheat, and children grow up. Or you leave them yourself because they are strangers now. What worked yesterday’s breaks? No matter what happens, remember: loneliness is always behind you, like winter. Maturity is the ability to be alone without dramatizing. It is better to prepare in advance; I will tell you how.
1. Everyone except your immediate family can be replaced. No one and nothing is the same. Let new people into your life, even if you don’t yet understand if you have anything in common. One day you will understand that you are alone, and this will save you.
2. Always try new things: food, clothes, routes, gadgets, activities, movies, books, theories, and explanations of the universe. The brain is made of lazy chewing gum. The more it goes on, the more it wants to bend in the same places; the rest of its convolutions tend to disappear. Don’t let it stick to the same things, pleasures, ways, methods, and tricks. Always try new things, especially when you are lazy, scared, or don’t want to. One day you will understand that you are alone, and this will save you.
3. Forgive everyone you can, forget the rest. Oblivion is the best punishment and the best medicine. And never argue with anyone, better get a manicure.
4. There is no need to rush. Everything that happens quickly does not live long. If you really want something, you will do it. If you don’t want it, then it is unnecessary. Put off risky desires and actions, letting them “rest.”. Do something you are not sure about only if the desire has been haunting you for a long time.
5. This point complements the previous one: if you want something and you think it is right, do it. Desires are life. Let the desire live inside and watch it. If it hasn’t disappeared, follow it.
6. Don’t give up until you want something. Luck is experience, that is, the number of repetitions. Any failure is a lack of experience and is compensated by experience. Courage and risk are experienced. What sometimes looks like incredible impudence is experience. Perseverance, tolerance, the ability to forgive, stability, and independence—all this is experience. The main thing is not to give up until you want something.
7. Nothing is the end, not even the end: everything is only a flow. Remember this in despair, in grief, at the grave of a friend, reading the letter of a loved one who left you. There will certainly be a day when you will say: “And for the best!” (especially when it comes to a loved one 🙂 Nothing is the end: one day you will understand that you are alone, and this thought will save you
8. Nothing is the end, but the end is near. And it is more useful to think that it is tomorrow. Then it is easier to follow all these points.
9. Do whatever you want, but take care of your body; otherwise, it will unexpectedly take revenge on you. Get into the habit of asking what it wants and doing it. If you have never listened to your body and do not know how it speaks, start with simple things like forest walks, swimming, or yoga. Then everything will happen by itself: the body is waiting to be heard.
10. Romance, love, and passion are wonderful. But if you confuse them with sex, you can stay without it for a long time. And this is stupid and harmful. Make sure you have sex. Let romance and love, when they come, find you in bed with a new lover.
11. The last thing you should worry about is what people think of you. People think mostly of themselves and also of you, measuring themselves by themselves. That is, they do not think of you or each other. Do what you want and see point 7.
12. Be afraid of certainty. Certainty is the beginning of insanity. Doubt, allow for other options, and leave escape routes open for yourself and others. I doubt every point I wrote. But for now, I think I’ll leave everything as is. One day I’ll be alone and see if all this will save me.
