Love Advice: Male Signs of a Serious Relationship!!!
Every woman should know this! Of course, women are more mysterious and unpredictable than men. But talking about the representatives of the stronger sex as creatures in whose behavior everything is clear, obvious, and can be calculated fourteen moves ahead is also a considerable exaggeration.
If the widespread female idea of men as practically single-celled creatures, driven only by instincts and miraculously showing signs of mental activity, were true, women would not have an almost panic-stricken lack of self-confidence when asked the question, “How can I know if he has serious feelings for me or not?” This question is the more painful and mysterious for a woman, the more she likes a man. And the entire beautiful half of humanity as a whole and each woman individually strives to determine a certain set of signs by which one could say: yes, this man is ready for a serious relationship and wants it; this one is still in thought; and nothing serious should be expected from this one.
The difficulty is that, firstly, men in each individual case are rarely, but still unpredictable, and secondly, some of the generally accepted symptoms of a serious relationship on the part of a man are becoming less and less common.
Take, for example, the notorious introduction to parents: earlier, at least twenty-five years ago, for a man to introduce his passion to parents was a responsible step, weighed many times and testifying to the high status of his attitude to the woman. Nowadays, everything is much simpler: everyone is accustomed to the free nature of relations between a man and a woman; the fact that several “relationships” can change in a year, if not recognized as normal, is not shocking either.
Nowadays, a man, especially if he has not yet reached, say, thirty years of age, in most cases introduces his beloved to his parents not because he is ready to marry her, but because of his mother’s constant worried and offended conversations about “I’m interested in who you are dating.” A man’s failure to stifle a woman’s sweet fantasies about the number of children they will have and their names is certainly not indicative of true love. Fantasies in relationships are generally a primordially female matter; men, for the sake of their peace of mind, prefer simply not to interfere with them.
Nevertheless, there are still a number of signs according to which the majority (we emphasize the majority; we cannot vouch for all) of men treat their chosen one seriously and responsibly.
Sign 1: In conversations between a man and a woman and with acquaintances, the word “we” begins to appear more and more often to refer to his couple.
This is pure psychology: if a man openly admits that he already identifies himself with some other person, then there is a high probability that in his soul he has already parted with his status as a “lone wolf” and has come to terms with it;
Sign 2: a large amount of time spent together.
Here we need to use logic: for men, love affairs and adventures, although one of the most vivid parts of life, are also quite fleeting and short-lived.
Only in advanced cases do men dedicate a significant portion of their time to relationships that hold little significance to them. Usually, when a woman means nothing special, a man will prefer to spend his free hours having fun with friends, on sports, on hobbies, or even on an extra couple of hours of sleep.
Sign 3: preference for communication with a woman over communication with other people.
This sign obviously follows from the previous one: the setting of priorities in communication will say about the place that a woman occupies in a man’s life, much more than words, which, as we know, can be untrue. True, in this case there should be a stable tendency, one or two times when a man refused to meet with a second cousin or a neighbor in the country, do not say anything;
Sign 4: trusting a woman to temporarily use one of his toys.
And we are not talking about iron soldiers or construction sets from a man’s childhood—practically all technical equipment, even expensive ones, from a computer to a car, are essentially toys for men.
And since childhood we all know: if a child shares his toy, especially his favorite one, this is evidence of trust and special affection;
Sign 5—oddly enough, this is the first truly serious quarrel.
Here you also need to know the peculiarities of male psychology: we will not waste time and nerves on a real quarrel with a woman who is not dear to us and with whom we do not want to be near as long as possible. When a woman is not dear to a man, he will not quarrel with her; he will simply turn around and leave. Of course, a serious quarrel is evidence of a man’s serious intentions only if it ends in reconciliation.
Sign 6: Introducing a woman to her friends often plays a much greater role for a man than introducing her to his parents.
Friends are an inner circle for a man, a community where he can relax and be himself. Therefore, admitting a woman to this “closed club” means, on the one hand, that a man trusts his chosen one, on the other, that he is thereby seeking approval of his choice from his loved ones;
Sign 7: “jointwork uunites.”Matroskin the cat was right.
When a man and a woman are united by some kind of joint non-professional work duties, say, a joint trip to the dacha to gather the autumn harvest, this is practically an intimate moment: somewhere deep in the male subcortex at this moment a record appears that with this woman one can share life not only in moments of entertainment but also in moments of the battle for daily bread;
Sign 88:the emergence of plans for a common future and joint practical steps to bring such a future closer.
Plans for a joint future differ from fantasies about a joint future in that the man begins to do something for this ffuture andtakes on some responsibility for the woman.
Letsay if a man pays for a woman in a restrestaurant;s is nothing more than an almost obligatory courtesy, but if he finds a rented apartment for living together, even with the reservations that “this is all preliminary, so that we can get to know each other and so on,” this is already a step in a certain direction.
