Love Advice: If You Have To Do These 7 Things, He’s Not The One
There is a lot of talk online about when we will find love, when we will meet our One. But the truth is that love is not an exact science. There is no formula or test to check if a particular person is your soulmate. Unfortunately, it all comes down to pure intuition.
But intuition can also be difficult to understand. What does our inner voice, which is constantly distracted by a loving heart and a clouded mind, want to tell us? There are many good signs of The One, but the following 7 are what definitely should not be in a relationship with him. And in general, if you doubt whether he is The One, then most likely he is not. But if you notice yourself doing something from this list, you are not with the right person.
1. Achieve it.
Movies show everything wrong. They depict great love with great obsession. When someone suffers for someone for years, goes crazy with love. Like, if you don’t suffer for this love, then you don’t deserve it. Like, true love doesn’t come easy. But why should you strive for and suffer for something that should also love you obsessively (if he is your One)?
2. Beg him.
True love happens naturally and easily. But when you ask another person to love you, to stay, not to leave, you will never get the love you are looking for. Love should lift you to the clouds, not bring you to your knees.
3. Change for him.
Someone who loves you, loves you completely and for who you are. They may not always agree with you, but the right person isn’t looking for the perfect partner. They’re looking for someone who’s perfect for them.
4. Negotiate with him.
You should not be with a person who makes you negotiate the terms of your relationship. This is only for calculating couples. You should only agree on joint plans for vacations or weekends.
5. Guess about him.
You shouldn’t be unsure of how he feels about you, what he wants in life. He should be open about what he wants, including you. There should be no secrets in your relationship.
6. Cry because of him.
Tears kill love. Relationships should not be built on nights of tears, but on days when you are happy. Tears are not a sign that you care about him, they are a sign that you need to leave.
7. Lie for him .
If you hide something serious about him from your friends or family, you are in the wrong relationship. You should not cover for him, or lie to him because you are ashamed of something about him. You should not pretend to be with someone he is not.
