How to attract men. Ten commandments of relationships with men.
Commandment 1: “A real woman attracts men with her inner state”
This is your enjoyment of yourself and your life. If you have learned to enjoy yourself and your life, whether you work or relax, drink coffee or drive a car, you will attract the attention and interest of those who are around you.
Commandment 2: “Love for a man begins with love for yourself.”
Usually we think the opposite: “When someone loves me, then I love myself.”
But until a Woman has an affair with herself, every man will be just a psychotherapist for her, trying to cure her of self-rejection and fear of being alone.
True, deep love arises from a state of being full of oneself. Then love for a man will be born in its highest manifestation – as a gift of oneself to him, and not as a desperate attempt to be needed by someone in order to feel one’s own completeness.
Commandment 3: “A man loves not the Woman herself, but his state next to her”
Therefore, a Real Woman is not the most beautiful, not the most intelligent, and certainly not the most successful in social terms. A Real Woman gives a man not intelligence, not beauty, not a body, not success, but a fortune. A woman who creates a special state in men – a masculine one, will always have success and admirers.
She creates this state by enjoying herself in the company of a man and admiring a man. And a man will be drawn to this special state, like a magnet. A real woman cultivates femininity in herself in order to bestow it on men (her beloved, admirers, friends, acquaintances, just passers-by).
Commandment 4: “The desire to love is born within”
It usually has nothing to do with whether there are worthy objects for this in the Real Woman’s environment. When a Woman thinks that “there is no one to choose from” and that there are no men around her worthy of her love, this may indicate that she is not yet ready to love. She wants something else (to get married, to be “like all normal people”, not to be alone, to arrange her life).
She may be afraid to love (her heart is closed by past wounds). And those “unworthy” men who are around only reflect her inner state. As soon as a woman matures to true deep love, the question “worthy – not worthy” ceases to be of primary importance. The object (and often very “worthy”) materializes as if by itself.
Commandment 5: “A woman’s generosity in love attracts love to her.”
If a woman wants to be loved, she must be able to saturate everything she comes into contact with love. Give it, show it, think and talk about it, enjoy it. What we give to the Universe, comes back to us from the Universe. So love comes to a Woman as a response to her ability to give this feeling.
If a Woman has created a field of love around herself, she will never be deprived of the love of other people, including men. A woman who is always waiting for love is like a bottomless funnel that is impossible to fill. Love should be an inhalation and an exhalation, not just an inhalation. If you exhale love, it will find you naturally.
Commandment 6: “Men are Gods”
Every man is God. That’s right. If he doesn’t strike you as God, then you are “looking through the eyes” of the critical mind. God may be manifested in him at only one percent. He hasn’t met a Woman in his life yet who would inspire him to believe in himself. A real Woman sees Gods in men. Of course, Gods have their faults, but don’t Goddesses have theirs?
A Real Woman does not compete with men and does not prove her perfection to them. She does not remake them or educate them (is it possible to remake God?). She sees the best in each of them. A Real Woman loves, appreciates and respects men in general, as a class. Such a position creates space in her life for interesting and worthy men.
Commandment 7: “To charm men, a woman must herself be charmed.”
If a Woman wants to inspire men, she must be inspired herself. If a Woman wants to ignite them, she must be a small flame herself.
A Woman’s “enchantment” is her love for Life, for her little secrets, romanticism and mystery. It doesn’t matter what a Woman is enchanted by – her dreams, a new dress, a hairstyle, a book, a film or her memory. “Enchantment” creates an inner light that is impossible not to feel.
Commandment 8: “There is always room for heroism next to a Real Woman.”
She creates it. A woman arouses in a man the desire to show himself strong, not imposing on him the duty of “you must”, but gently inviting him into the fairy tale “Hero and Princess”. She creates the illusion of touching defenselessness and vulnerability, awakening in a man the desire to perform actions, the result of which will be her delighted eyes and admiration for him.
A real woman prepares a man to commit acts gradually and imperceptibly, without doing anything for this, simply being in the image of a gentle, fragile young lady.
Commandment 9: “A Real Woman does not participate in feminist women’s clubs.”
There are many such clubs, for example: “Men are goats”, “There are no more real men”, “All the decent ones are taken”, “We are fine without them”, or “Women’s lot is hard”, “Nobody loves me”, “Waiting for a prince”.
A real woman will not make generalizations like “They are all…”. She knows that all men are different.
Each woman creates her own Universe, and she is surrounded by the men she attracts into her life; after all, we are always surrounded by our reflections.
She will not fan the flames of inter-gender hostility and revel in the imperfections of the universe. When talking to her friends about her man, she will not focus on his shortcomings, criticize and devalue him, making him seem unworthy.
Commandment 10: “A Real Woman knows how to say even unpleasant things correctly and kindly.”
She tells them to men in such a way that it does not humiliate them, but pushes them to change for the better. It is a great feminine art to be kind even when it is necessary to talk about shortcomings and mistakes.
It is not what a Woman says that is important, but how she says it. She speaks, preserving her sense of self-worth and the dignity of the one to whom she is saying it. She knows that even criticism can be presented in such a way that it will inspire a feat. However, she always leaves a man the opportunity to choose: to change or not.
