How to Get Your Ex to Come Back to You: A Checklist from a Guy
While you probably shouldn’t have high hopes for getting back together with the guy who dumped you, there are a few things you can do to nudge him in the right direction—back into your arms. Here are some thoughts on what you should and shouldn’t do if you want your ex to want to get back together with you.
1. Give him space
Trust me, you can’t pressure him if you want to win his affection back. It will likely come across as clingy and annoying, even if it’s coming from a place of love. Guys don’t want that, and you’ll end up doing more harm than good.
The best thing you can do is give him space. That way he’ll have a chance to miss you. If you can’t make him miss you, he’ll never want you back. This may be your only chance.
2. Try to move on
What you need to prepare yourself for is that you won’t get your ex back. You also need to give him the impression that you’ve moved on without him. If he thinks he can get you back anytime he wants, he’ll never want to.
Instead, you should make him think that he will lose you forever. This may be the only way to make him realize that he still wants you. Also, if he sees you taking up new hobbies and ways to fill your time, it may pique his interest in keeping you in his life.
3. Find out why everything went wrong
How do you get your ex to come back to you? If you want a second chance with your ex, something in the relationship has to be different. If everything is the same as before, it will end again for the same reasons.
You need to understand where things went wrong and then be able to explain to him why things will be different if you get back together. Most guys will need some convincing to get back together with their ex, so you need to be clear about why this really will be a new beginning.
4. Don’t give in to despair
You shouldn’t show impatience or desperation. In most cases, you should stay away from harsh gestures or trying to trick him into seeing you in a romantic setting.
This makes men feel pressured and manipulated, and most of us don’t like that. It will make us run faster than you can blink.
5. Remind him of the good moments in your relationship
For the record, this method is a bit manipulative but can be effective. Try to remind him of the good times in your relationship and why you became a couple in the first place. The key is to focus on the good memories, not the bad ones.
This can make him think about the positive aspects of the relationship instead of the negatives. Reassure him that you were a great couple once and can be the same again.
6. Make friends with him first
Going from separation to reunion can be a big step for both partners. For some guys, it’s too overwhelming, so we hesitate to get back together with our ex. The alternative is to try to be friends, although maybe not right away.
The goal here is to simply stay on his radar so he can reminisce about your relationship and miss you. Without putting pressure on him, you can slowly remind him what a great couple you were. Plus, if you’ve been friends for a while, getting back together won’t seem like such a big deal.
7. Seduce him
If you’re in doubt, you can always try to seduce him into wanting you back. Of course, this is probably your last option. If he has any lingering feelings, it will be hard for him to resist such temptation.
Of course, I won’t lie and say that spending the night with him will guarantee that you’ll get back together, but honestly, it won’t hurt. If he does, at least you’ll know that some part of him wants you back.
