Relationship Advice: When God Sends Us That Very Man – How To Understand That He Is The One
When God sends us that very man, how do we understand that he is the one? The life of even a very self-sufficient woman blossoms and becomes even brighter when that very man comes into her life. Destiny sends us different people; we strive to find happiness with each of them, but we are disappointed and do not understand what was wrong or why the circumstances turned out this way that with all the bright prospects you suddenly break up.
Time passes, and sometimes quite a lot, before you realize that this lesson that was sent by fate has been learned, writes Yulia Sudakova. That the way it happened is an inevitable option, and there are only attempts to argue with fate, to predict it, that is, not to learn this lesson but to burden the theory with practice, but one way or another, it will happen anyway.
Something important will leave your life together with the person who brought it. And then, someday, you will understand that it was meant to be this way, you will understand why, and… you will agree. The life of even a very self-sufficient woman blossoms and becomes even brighter when that very man comes into her life. All single women want to meet their man, the one with whom everything will be different, with whom everything will be fine, right? Most believe that the meeting prepared by fate looks like this: “Something inside me will click. I will feel it. YOU PROBABLY THINK SO too.
But the sad news is that it only clicks, covers, pokes, and blows your mind when a karmic man comes to you to work it off. It clicks so hard that you can’t pass it by. And it immediately seems that it is him… I feel it… But after such clicks, 95% of women find out that it is not HIM but simply bad karma, which then only hurts!
HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT THE VERY MAN YOU NEED HAS COME INTO YOUR LIFE, WITH WHOM YOU WILL DEVELOP AND REVEAL AS A WOMAN?
Let’s start with the fact that no matter what kind of men come into our lives, they are not random; they are necessary and very useful, but they come with different goals. Conventionally, they can be divided into three large groups, so that it is clear.
The first group is Men-teachers
They come to teach us something and stay in our lives until the lesson is learned. They can be all sorts: kind, evil, married, driving you crazy, breaking your personal boundaries, humiliating you or endlessly causing you to feel sorry for them, etc.
THEY WILL TEACH YOU FEMININE QUALITIES, SELF-WORTH, FAITH IN YOURSELF, PROTECTING YOUR BOUNDARIES, AND HOW TO CORRECTLY BUILD RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN.
It can be one man, or there can be several with the same lesson. If the woman is stubborn, then such a man is
The second group is karmic debtors
Sometimes men come into a woman’s life with whom she has a karmic debt. And in such relationships, either she gives a lot because she is in debt, or the man invests a lot of emotions, feelings, experiences, or even money in her, but the woman has no love, tenderness, or warmth for him. Sometimes, you know how it is, it is impossible for people to even separate if they have not given each other something; they are kept together so that they can finally fill each other and let go.
AS SOON AS THE NECESSARY EXCHANGE OF ENERGY (KARMA, MONEY, TIME, FEELINGS) HAS TAKEN PLACE, THEY ARE ALSO DIVORCE.
I had a client who had a good relationship with her husband; they lived well together, giving a lot to each other; he filled her with faith in herself; and she gave him rear and feminine protection. And one fine evening they came home from work, sat down opposite each other, and saw that everything—you see, nothing holds them together anymore—only gratitude for the warm years together remained. And nothing more… They broke up, and six months later both had couples in which they had a very powerful development, and now they communicate as families and still remain very good friends, relaxing together. It happens, but this is the best option.
But what usually happens is that a woman gets fixated on a man who often feels nothing for her, and she starts loving him, praying for him, doing practices, putting a ton of energy into him, thinking that he is the one. And she can’t do anything about what she constantly gives away, either physically or energetically.
AND IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, YOU JUST HAVE TO STAND BACK AND SEND LOVE TO THAT PERSON AND CONTINUE LIVING YOUR LIFE AND NOT THINK THAT IT IS THE ONE.
And the third group of men are men for life
This is the very group we need. Men for life are those who fill us, who give us something, who reveal us, with whom we need to live, build a family, and develop. We are now talking specifically about a good option for the development and revelation of a woman in her nature.
SOMETIMES A WOMAN NEEDS TO GO THROUGH THE TWO PREVIOUS GROUPS TO MATURE FOR SUCH A MAN.
We women very often have immature relationships with men simply because we do not agree to learn our lessons and wait for the necessary moment in our lives when what we need comes. And then the woman either agrees to any man or lives in her illusions and expectations of a prince.
It is important to understand that a worthy man will come when you are at least a little polished as a woman, either by practices or good upbringing.
Relationships with a “man for life” can also be complicated and unclear, but there are several factors by which you can understand that this man is really needed in your life now and that a relationship with him will bring you good.
THIS DOESN’T MEAN THAT IT WILL BE A LIFELONG RELATIONSHIP, BUT IT DOES SHOW THAT THIS MAN IS CLEARLY NOT A RANDOM VISITOR IN YOUR LIFE.
How do you understand that a man is yours?
Successful women who live with good men say there was no click, no epiphany from heaven: “Oh my God, this is it!” It wasn’t even a crazy crush. It was a gradual relationship in which there was no wildness, haste, madness, and all that stuff that is shown in the movies.
There is the first signal by which it becomes clear whether you need this man at all. And this signal is safety. You will feel safe next to your man. This is the base and foundation; without this, you should not go further. Your man may be of average build and not have Kung Fu skills, but next to him you will feel protected; you will know that if something happens, he will not let anyone hurt you. Moreover, the man himself may belong to some dangerous profession, but when you are next to him, you will stop thinking about your safety because he will take it upon himself. This is embedded in our female instincts; we are looking for a strong man so that he can protect our children, so that we are not afraid to give birth, so that if something happens, that is, there is a back behind which you can hide.
THIS IS THE ESSENCE OF ALL WOMEN—SAFETY.
Many men are offended when women fall for their money, power, and position in society, but there is nothing reprehensible in this; it is a normal psychological overcompensation. A woman is simply looking for security, and since she cannot rely on a man, she at least seeks refuge in money, because money is also a force that can protect.
So, if you have a man, feel and answer yourself honestly: do you feel safe with him? When there is a feeling of safety, a woman can relax, and when she relaxes, her best feminine qualities are revealed: playfulness, feminine spontaneity, a sweet smile, carefree girlish joy. Surely every woman has experienced this at least once.
THIS MAN WILL REVEAL YOUR FEMININE QUALITIES, OR BETTER TO SAY, YOUR BEST FEMININE QUALITIES WILL REVEAL THEMSELVES.
When the “right” man is around, you will want to cook, dress nicely, and take care of yourself. Natural feminine qualities will begin to awaken in you—the desire to serve, to be soft and gentle. Without any additional knowledge, you will want to give him a massage and meet him from work, even if you were a daring woman who was her own boss before. All this happens so spontaneously and naturally, with a deep inner desire, that many women simply stop recognizing themselves. They discover in themselves something that, it seemed, never existed before. What we learn in training can turn on by itself without any knowledge if your man is around you.
YOU WILL LOOK BETTER.
Yes, that’s right… You’ll want beautiful clothes, a million trinkets in the form of jewelry, and good creams, but it won’t even be about taking care of yourself. It will be about your condition, and perhaps after one of the nights with him you’ll be walking around the city a little disheveled, not having had time to put on makeup and put on a royal make-up, but you’ll have a warm smile and an amazingly radiant look, and you’ll be the most beautiful woman on earth at that moment. People will turn around and fall silent when they see you.
If in a relationship with a man you lose the desire to take care of yourself, you want to put on sweatpants, tie your hair up, and eat everything in sight, like “I relaxed next tohim—this is a very alarming sign; it will not lead to anything good. Sometimes such situations are useful, and you can be relaxed and vulnerable with a man, but if you always want this, it means that the man does not trigger the necessary states in you. This can be achieved, of course, by independent efforts, but we are talking about a good option, and when it is good, such things happen automatically for us.
YOUR INJURIES WILL HEAL.
If a man is “yours,” he will be able to rewrite your energy matrix of past relationships, filling your inner space with his energy. And it will seem to you that there was no relationship before him; you will remember everything, but it will seem that it was in a past life. Energy dependence, traces, and attachments from one man are treated with love and acceptance of another man. I have seen this in my energy practice.
Not only women’s love works wonders, men’s love can do a lot too. In addition, you will have the strength for internal transformation, and this will launch the processes of forgiveness and letting go in you, and perhaps you will have the strength to forgive and let go of a huge number of grievances in your life, because now you do not need this burden and want to fill your internal state with a state of grace, gratitude, and warmth.
YOU WILL START TO LOVE YOURSELF MORE.
When a man is ready to give to a woman, to love her, to invest in her, then after a while, when her mental rehabilitation is over, she will begin to see herself with different eyes; she will see herself as valuable, beautiful, significant, and most importantly, loved, and her self-esteem will begin to grow. The woman will open up in a new amazing light.
Brad Pitt’s statement confirming this point:
“It all started with my wife’s illness. She started having problems at work and in her personal life, which made her very nervous. Her concerns about her failures and issues with her children also had an impact on her health. She changed a lot in appearance—she lost weight (40 kg at 35 years old!) and looked haggard. Her eyes were almost always wet; she was irritated by everything. Joy left her life.
Health problems manifested themselves in headaches, heart problems, and pinched nerves in the back and ribs. She had constant insomnia; she was tired and not getting enough sleep. All this shook our relationship.
She began to neglect her appearance, slouch, and develop bags under her eyes. She also began to refuse filming and the roles offered to her. My hope was lost, and I was thinking about divorce. However, after some time, I decided to change something. And really, I thought, I have the most wonderful woman in the world. She is the ideal of many men and women, but she is next to me. I fall asleep next to her, hugging her shoulders.
And I decided not to put it off for long. I started giving her flowers, lavishing compliments, kissing her… I gave her unexpected gifts and surprises; everything was for her. I talked about her all the time and praised her so that everyone could hear. And everything worked out! She began to blossom like a flower.
She became prettier, gained weight to a pleasant curve, stopped worrying, and her love for me became even greater. Before, I had never imagined that she was capable of loving like that! After that, I understood: a woman is a man’s mirror. If you love her madly, she will become him. And I didn’t even imagine that she could love like that!”
