Relationship Advice: 5 Signs You’re Giving More Than Receiving In A Relationship

5 Signs You Give More Than You Receive in Relationships
“ The habit of giving may be embedded in your good heart, but each of us must use this quality rationally. Rational thinking of a person tells when to give, what to give, and to whom to give without causing any harm to yourself or others.” Michel Roya Rad, “Are You a Generous Person?”

All people can be fairly divided into three categories: those who love to give; those who love to receive; and those who love both to give and to receive.

Most people fall into the third category, and there is nothing wrong or bad in giving and enticing in equal measure.

However, there is also a minority that can be characterized as only “givers” and only “takers”. The first group of people’s motivations are based on their altruistic nature, whereas the second group of people’s motivations are based on their interests.

You give more than you receive in a relationship.

Predisposed people to give are warmhearted, selfless, and empathetic. However, without setting certain boundaries, the ability to give can turn into counterproductive and unhealthy behavior.

In essence, a giving person needs to be able to balance between his innate kindness and the realities of this world.

Why is it so important to maintain a balance between giving and common sense?

• You will not be used.
• selfish people will not be included in your social circle;
• Everyone won’t keep bugging you to get help from you.
• the people you care about (children, brothers, and sisters) will be able to show a desire to become more independent and self-sufficient;
• You will be able to get rid of feelings of guilt and regret.

Now answer the question: “Are you sacrificing yourself too much ?”

There are 5 potential signs that you are over-committing. Let’s get started!

Here Are 5 Signs You’re Giving More Than Receiving in a Relationship

1. You rarely say “no.”

The inability to say “no” can be harmful. Have you ever agreed to something with a smile, even though inside you felt awkward? If so, then this could be a sign of your over-giving.

You have the right (the right!) to say “no,” with or without explanation.

Try this: Keep your answers short, polite, and confident. For example: “I’m very busy with my project. I hope you can find someone else.”

2. You don’t have enough time for yourself

Unfortunately, selfless acts do not stop time. We all have our things to do, people to meet, and places to go. Each of us needs time to sleep and have fun.

Rest and the desire to relax are our human needs, not an option. Your brain and body need to be fueled with strength and energy so that you can be a productive and happy person (it’s physiology!). Do yourself a favor and find time in your schedule for yourself.

If it helps, think of rest as fuel for your body to help you become the best version of yourself.

Try this: In your schedule, set aside an hour or two each day for yourself. This time is yours alone. People should be aware of these hours and not disturb you during these hours.

3. You always solve other people’s problems

Let’s say it’s 9 pm and you can’t wait to kick up your tired feet and relax after a hard day. Just then the phone rings!

Later on the phone, you listen to your friend tell you about his problems. Of course, you are too polite to cut the conversation short, so you listen… and listen. About 20 minutes later, your friend asks for your opinion/solution regarding his situation.

Try this: Turn off your phone (if you can’t, ignore unnecessary calls), or go to a quiet place.

Most importantly, stop being a psychotherapist for other people; you already devote too much of your time to them!

4. There is a lot of drama in your life

For some reason, you have a deep sense of stress and drama, and you don’t know why. If you sacrifice yourself too much, you automatically let a lot of drama into your life.

Try this: Think of the solution as an equation. More Commitment (MC) + More People (MP) = More Drama (MD), or MC + MP = MD. Do what you will with that equation, but know that it’s time to make a change!

5. Your happiness suffers

Although givers get pleasure from helping others, they are, at their core, human like everyone else.

Increased levels of stress and adrenaline can lead to unintended consequences, including changes in brain chemistry.

When this happens, it can be very difficult to predict how it will end. However, anxiety and depression (or their symptoms) often manifest.

Try this: Please, for the sake of your health, stop doing this. Not only will your mental and physical health suffer, but you won’t be able to help anyone around you.

If your symptoms persist, try these few tips.

Take up meditation (natural and proven stress reduction techniques!).

Start saying “no.” Practice deep breathing. Visit a psychologist or psychotherapist.

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